My husband left me a year and a half ago. He collected unemployment until it ran out so the guy he was living with kicked him out. Needless to say he came here. He has no feeling for me what so ever nor I for him. The problem is he is have an online romance. I happen to walk up behind him and saw what he was writing. He was calling her sweetheart,honey, babe, and telling her that when ever he thinks of her he get horny. Please this made me so angry,I went into a rant. I told him to leave, he refused. I told him what does he think she will say once she sees him.He has no teeth,scrawny,and takes a shower once a week.Also why I would like him to leave. He has not worked in 2 years and does not even look for work. He now says he has no intentions of ever seeing her.
Being a curious women I looked her up online and saw a picture. This women looks as old as his Mother, he is 56.
I find this humiliating and am now on Tranquilizers.

Maya i would not worry, all men well majority of them are like that. Have online friends (girls) to talk to, with new email ids which you don't know and show themselves as being single. The worst thing is they will never stop, and say that i will every girl i talk to that im married then next minute tell someone new they are single.
My husband did that too, and when confronted him, he just tried to ignore it and when i got angry then i was the one giving attitude, typical hey.

If your husband wont stop, and says he wont talk to her again, he will just find someone else. If you have no feelings for him, chuck him out, live your life happily.

Maya, He left you, he has no job, not teeth and no personal hygene. Why do you care if he has an online girlfriend? Maybe he will meet someone who will take this guy off your hands!

And REENA, if you think that MOST men are like this then sweetie, you are getting involved with the wrong men!

you are right. I told im to leave and he refuses. He always says this is his house too. I guess it bothers me because he never talked to me that way in 15 yrs of marriage. I told him he deserted me for a year and a half and has no right to be here. His reply was I still paid the mortgage.

Get a divorce and get him out of your life.

-F

i agree with farce.....

apply for a divorce......

Yes, I'd say get rid of him, too. Why tolerate someone like that? He does not care for you, he is unpleasant to be around, and he is obviously not going to change. You deserve better than that.

Was this online romance the reason he left you? He really doesn't sound like someone you should be with anyways. Get him out of your life and get on with your life. Go out and have fun. Sounds like you'd be better off without him anyways.

I wonder how you were living with such a dirty fellow for 15 years. You should get him out of your life as soon as possible.

I agree with many of our fellow posters. This man has no respect for himself or for you. There are many online sites providing low-cost or free divorce paperwork. Fill out the paperwork and submit it -- get him out of your life and move on. He will only continue to bring you pain.

That's a normal issue even my hubby does that before but now he can't even think about it. Haha the magic of nagging! I say teach him a lesson he won't forget. And if you don't have any feelings for him you can get rid of him and find a new one.

I agree, obviously he is not worth your time or energy. He is more of a nuisance than anything else and you really need to kick him to the curb. As far as most men being like this, that is false as well. There are good and bad, just like in everything else, but I think it is unfair to categorize most men as being like this guy.

me too agree with you all,you should get rid of this type of person as fast as you can,all women have the right to judge,be strong,,,

He is a jobless 56-year old. What does he do at home? Browse the interned and pretend to be a young Lothario? If you can't get rid of him, talk to him. You may be surprised at what's going on in his head. I don't think he is after an affair with anyone, considering his age and finances, but he may be just plain bored with his life.

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I agree with the other posters. I did my own divorce.
My first hubby spent all of the money at girly bars. Then he started giving his payehceck to strangers he met online.what fun. Dump ASAP!

Hello Maya,
I am sorry to hear that you are in this situation. Having to take medication to live with someone cannot be a pleasant experience. Even though your husband may seem unattractive and worthless to others, you do not want to make a rush decision. You are the person that must live with the consequences. Have you tried counselling along with the medication?