I don't mean physical fighting, of course (although that unfortunately happens as well), I am talking about arguing. Does it happen a lot in your family? When you have a disagreement, do you manage to solve it in a calm civil way? Is raising voices common?

No, my wife fights with me but I don't fight with her.

-F

I wonder how that works farce? She starts a fight but you won't participate? Or perhaps you have some special technique of quickly stopping it?

I hate conflicts myself. My husband and I don't argue, but we do discuss things we happen to disagree about.

That's because most of the time I'm at fault like leaving the
TV on and sleeping on the couch ;-). So I just let her rant
for a bit and then she's ok.

-F

:lol:

any compromise should seem as a better alternative to flying saucers

Absolutely I think it's very healthy, it clears the air and everyone can get what they have on their chest off and alot of the times releases alot of frustrations and really clears the air. Also the making up part is Fun

Of course we argue! I don't think it would be healthy to have a relationship with someone you never disagreed with! We generally agree to disagree or whatever....although I know I'm right most of the time! hee hee!

He says something I don't like. I cry. He goes off and sulks.... then that night we lay in bed and discuss rationally.. then we make up.

Its natural to have a fight/argument with your spouse, if you don't its not really normal! There's bound to be disagreements on things its only natural so, because no two people in this world are exactly alike.
Everyone's fights in a different ways, sometimes its the raising of voice, sometimes sulking off, sometimes its just moaning and so on. I have to admit I do a bit of everything when it comes to arguing/fighting, but then I also calm down and we both make up ( Generally its my fault )

Its good you admit that your at fault! Do you mean your wife just moans and you dont listen and ignore her....

What is it with guys falling asleep with the TV on?? I don't get it. I personally CAN'T sleep with the darn thing blabbering, that's why it is banned from the bedroom. Sometimes I joke saying that the TV is a pacifier for guys.

Yeah of course. Without fighting life won't be cheerful. All are lovable fights nothing serious. It is just difference of opinion, finally anyone will compromise.

You are talking about the TV right? ;-)

-F

My hubby and I fight occasionally. We have been married for 8 years. At the beginning it was mostly because we have his and her kids. But we usually can come to a compromise. This is the best man I have ever been with. We pick and choose what is worth arguing about. And most times we both end up saying I`m sorry because we know our part in it.

My husband and I rarely fight. We did when we were first married. We would fight about everything and anything. Now we realize that it is silly to argue about the small stuff.

I think most husbands and wives have fights. My husband and I have really volatile fights with tempers flaring and all. I don't think that's necessarily the best way to handle a disagreement, but it does happen. I personally hate confrontation and fighting but once provoked, it's sometimes difficult not to react to comments that my husband makes. But we're still together. It's been 22 years.

I have a cousin. She and her husband don't fight, but they don't talk to each other either. They pretty much live separate lives. I guess that's one way not to have fights.

I would have to say that I have been married to my husband for 6 years now and I have to say that we have not had a handful of fights in those six years . One of the things that we take in to consideration when we do fight is , is it really worth getting mad over it? Can it be resolved ?

I know when we fight it is like we go to the seperate parts of the house until things cool off.

Yes, we do fight at times but it never gets to the point where both of us are extremely angry. Our fights are more like word games, lol. Besides, we both remind ourselves that we can always resolve every issue without having to resort to fighting. We communicate very well; thus, avoid the fights.

OH we always fight not in a bad way. Fighting is our idea of fun it's like pranking with each other then later laugh, throwing some jokes sometimes hitting each other for fun. All we do is to maintain a healthy relationship.

Me and my partner fight at times, mostly because of our temper. I'm pregnant at the moment, and I blow a fuse pretty easily. But most times I just keep quiet when I'm mad so as to avoid saying things that I'll end up regretting later.
I think fighting is normal between couples. This keeps the fire alive and strengthens the relationship.

I would have to agree that it does help your relationship in many way ...We do alot of joking and it seems to lessen eachothers anger level.

Sorry, I am going to go ahead and disagree with you there ;-)
I hate fights and can't think how fights can make
relationships better.

-F

then what about

I don't see the contradiction there

it is not a fight when one person yells. It's a fight
only when both yell at each other ;-)

-F

lol

I am not sure many would agree

well, I agree with myself

I am speaking from personal experience, when my wife yells at me
I go into this mode where she thinks I am listening but I have sort
of internally shut my ears. in this case the yelling stops in a few minutes,
when I start yelling back it usually goes on for longer, so I have come to the
conclsion to minimize the yell-time and spend the time saved watching
my favourite TV programs ;-)

There is a Calvin and Hobbes comic strip that perfectly illustrates this.
you should know which one I am talking about, you being a C&H fan ;-)

-F