What would you do if your spouse did not give you any birthday gift? He didn't forget; he actually said "Happy birthday," several times. But there's no gift, no surprises of any kind, not even flowers.

If I hadn't gone through this myself, I would say "it's no big deal, b/c he told you Happy Birthday", but it hurts. It's something we expect on our bday. I'm not picky.. I don't need something expensive, but SOMETHING would be nice. It can be having a movie night together, or something of that sort, but nothing at all.. that seems rude to me.

As well as on my bday, it happened to me on Vday. He didn't even say "Happy Valentines Day" or anything until the next day and it was, "Oh ya.. Happy Valentines Day." I thought it showed he didn't care about me.

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-Brittany Brydahl

It's happened to me too, but we are still together.

You have to understand that men (sorry guys) are not too good at gift shopping, and it's really the last thing on their minds. I know it's not an excuse, because we all like to be made a fuss of.

I tell you, if it were not for my mother in law I would never get a gift for my birthday or christmas, because she buys them on my husbands behalf.

For our last anniversary, we decided not to give gifts to each other, we just went out for a nice dinner and spent time together. I didn't mind it at all because finances are tight and we had talked about it in advance. If we hadn't talked about it, I might have been upset.

Well if he's broke then I would understand why there's no gifts at all but no something special like some dinner or what so ever special will make me feel sad. That's my usual expression. Anyway material gifts are not a big deal to me just spending the whole day with you on your birthday and do some sweet things will be nice.

I wouldn't have cared at all actually. I think that the birthday gifts are so unnecessary, especially past teenage years. I also find it a little nasty for someone to expect gifts from others just because it is their birthday.

I understand what you are saying, and I certainly don't expect everyone to make a big fuss about my birthday, but it has always been a point in my family, when growing up, to do at least something on the closest family members' birthday to show them that you remember, and care. I always prepare some kind of a small gift for my loved ones, or save up some money to take them out to eat. A small bouquet of flowers at Walmart is only $5...

Anyway. I did not say anything, it is no big deal. I know we are in a tight spot financially.