Ok so we have the boyfriend girlfriend relations, husband wife relations, and sometimes depends on a relation may have cheated with a one night stand or something, but this is something which can be thought over with. Let talks about say a married couple who have been together for a certain number of years say 6 years, and then one fine day you find out that your other half has been cheating on your for the past 2 years. And you have been a good person, fulfilled all your duties supported them well and no differences or problems, then what would you do when you find out about the affair?

For those who have been in this situation what did you do?

Are you someone who would take revenge or leave it? Or would you forget everything and get back together with your spouse, or try getting back? Would you try to harm your spouse in anyway?

What would you do?

There is no one answer. It depends on the situation.

-F

It is really hard to answer such a question as all situations are unique. In my case, I left one of my ex's because I couldn't find it in my heart to forgive him at the time. He had cheated on me after five years of relationship and wasn't able to tell me why he went out and cheated on me. I don't believe in revenge or any other poisonous acts to inflict upon others. I simply terminated the relationship and went my own way. Today, we are great friends and I don't even think about what he's done in the past.

It does depend a little on the situation, but honestly.. I am a firm believer that cheating is terrible and I don't think anyone should put up with it. If someone loves you, why would they do that? I have cheated, and I was forgiven.. I was upset with my ex who forgave me. There's the key word in my opinion 'ex'.. it didn't last and couldn't have. It leaves a permanent scar on the relationship for both people. One feels terrible for doing it, and the other will always think about it and bring it up in fights. I would say, get out

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-Brittany Brydahl

Talking things out is probably the best thing to do whether you're married or not. If you're a married, then it's important not to immediately say that you want a divorce. Find out why the spouse cheated and go to therapy if you need to. There are plenty of marriages that have survived a cheating spouse.