Any other women had this happen? My husband retired from the military and now he only works a part-time post office job. I don't know if it's because I'm going through menopause or if it's because he's home more, but he's driving me nuts sometimes. I guess I'm just not used to him being home so much and sometimes it feels like more work for me to take care of him. I love him, but it's stressing me out at times. Anyone have any suggestions?

Can you share what exactly is stressing you out? Is he acting like a big baby - "Can't find my clothes, can't cook, can't possibly wash my dishes"?

My husband is now laid off, so he is at home a lot, although he is doing all kinds of work on the house (new house, many things still unfinished). He can very well take care of himself, I have no complaints. He does not seem to add to my workload.

I think it may just take a while for you both to adjust to your new situation. Probably the best thing you can do is to sit down and talk, but I know what it can be like.

When my husband and I were first living together he worked away from home, so I got used to having my own space and routine. You will fit into a new routine soon enough.

I think you're just used to having the house to yourself. Now, it's almost like he's an intrustion on you "me time." I think that if it gets to be too much for you you should get out of the house sometimes.

Hehe you can get used to that soon enough. Even if you wanted to be alone at your house well it can't be helped.

Unless he is turning you into a personal maid, I agree with the others who have said that you will get used to it. If it's just about suddenly having another person around, changes like that can be difficult, but we do adjust. Have you tried going out together? It might help to re-connect, if some of the husband-wife connection is lost.