For a child, the most important in his early years is the love of his/her parents especially mother. But due the work culture of late night office jobs and hectic schedules, mothers are finding it hard to give quality time to her kids which can make him feel lonely.

I disagree with this. I know so many loving mothers who work that make that special time for their children. It isn't how much time you spend with your child, it is the quality of time you spend with them.

This may be true to some but to other children, it is the constant company of parents especially the mother which matters the most. I grew up with a working mother and I have had my share of loneliness. This is not to say that my mother did not enjoy quality time wth us. It is in fact that enjoyment of the quality time with her that made me want to be in her company for always. But then again, she had to work and be out and we have to contend with that. But on a case to case basis, there is again no rule of thumb here.

I 100% disagree with this. I worked when my daughter was younger and I still had plenty of time to spend with her for her quality time. She lacked nothing.

She is 12 now and I am still working. Sometimes people have to work.

It depends on the mother. My mom worked when I was growing up, and I was the only kid, yet I never felt lonely or neglected. I always knew that mom loved me and cared. There was never a doubt about that in my heart.

I was fortunate enought to be able to give up work to stay at home with my children, and I think it has been of an enormous benefit to them.

I know that people have to work, I understand that, but I think that having at least one parent at home to provide support and consistency is very important.

My daughter is my only child too. It's tough being an only child she tells me. I know she wishes that she had a brother or sister... but I tell her we wouldn't be able to do the things that we do - financially.

Working moms love their daughters too!

I know there are circumstances where a mother has to work to provide basic necessities. But, outside of that I don't understand why a woman would willingly have a child, just so that it can spend most of it's waking hours in the company of someone besides you.

I work from home and at an office, and my daughters are both at the school during the day. After work, I pick them up from the daycare service and we spend the rest of the day together until their bedtime. We all would love to spend more time with our children; however, we also have to earn money to secure a good future, also for our children. I know for a fact that my kids understand this, as I have explained to them many times that mommy loves being with them but at the same time, she also has to make sure they have everything they need, hence the long working hours.
As long as we show our children that we are always there for them no matter what, they don't feel left out or lonely when we are at work. Plus, spending time away from the parents give them a sense of independence and allow them to acquire social skills at an early age. As far as I am concerned, I don't believe that it is not such a bad thing for moms to work.

It depend on mothers only. My opinion is don't go late night jobs. It is tedious one.

Whatever may be the job think child first next only job. Then you can able to allocate time for your child. Mother's love and care is very important for child till at least 5 years.

Well haven't we all got different circumstances. Most mothers want to be with their children. However they also want to provide a home, food etc and that is such a huge job nowadays.

I guess you can stay home with your children and put very little effort into building a relationship and spending time communicating together.

You can work and put in maximum time and really enjoy and treasure every moment you have with them.

I think it depends on what your attitude is and how much love and effort you are prepared to put into enjoying your kids.

Whatever our situation, just love and enjoy growing and loving and learning with them because wow they grow up so quickly and that time is gone forever.

When a child is an only child, he tends to be lonely and that's normal, right? My friend didn't have problem with her parents because they see to it that they'll be able to find time for her. All she needs was a companion whom she could talk and share with. That's why parents should teach their child how to mingle with other people, it could be helpful.

I commiserate with mothers of only children who have to work. Because even if your child knows that you're out there working for his/her benefit, that knowledge alone is not enough. They may appreciate it but there'll still be times when that knowledge is not enough. And yet mom has to work. How to balance the needs of your child and the need to earn needed income? My advice would be to find work that can be done at home. With telecommute jobs becoming more available and internet marketing possibilities, this option is more available now.

I have only one child and I used to work when he was a toddler. It was hard for me but I was able to share quality night time and off days time with him. I hope he remembers them as happy times.

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maybe a working mom, should have a schedule of her own. find quality time to spend with your kid. it is really hard being a mother and at the same time working but it is possible for plenty of women. like me, I always give special and quality time for my kid.

It's sad, but very true. My mom was always gone. I only got to see her like one day a week when I was younger. It was tough. I basically raised myself and my younger siblings too. She couldn't afford a babysitter so she had to take me out of school early all the time. I almost failed High School classes because of it

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-Brittany Brydahl

There are ways to bond with the kids. You could tell bed time stories every night. You could help them in their assignments. Or whenever the family is gathered together, like during dinner, try to communicate with them. We could ask them how was their day. A simple act but it's meaningful for the kids. Do you agree?

I agree with you, yes. Those are some great points. If I ever have kids, I will make sure that they know they can always come to me if they need to talk

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-Brittany Brydahl

As the daughter of a single-working mom, I whole-heartedly agree with this. I know that some people have to work and they still spend time with their children, but even if that time is good quality time, which my mother wasn't really able to give because she was worn out from work and house cleaning, there is still something that is lacking.

This is true, even though its a cliche. Children spell L-O-V-E as T-I-M-E. "Quality" time can never make up for lack of time, much as we would love to believe that. My parents were gone all the time too, and even when they came back home, they preferred to spend time with one another rather than us (though that changed as they grew older and their marriage went bad).

Not giving your child enough time puts the belief in their mind that they are not worthy of our time and not valued enough. There are no easy answers for moms who work. As women our choices are always difficult. I made a conscious choice to work from home and still have guilt pangs (because I was forced to let my child stay with her grandparents for a few years).

But what really matters to a child is having a single person they can depend on to provide them with the time and attention they need, whether it's a parent, grandparent or member of the extended family.