Love first
Love comes first: Physical love is good, but there has to be genuine spiritual love also in your heart. Your immediate neighbor is your own spouse. So let charity begin at home and set an example by loving your spouse first and foremost.

I'm sure that a lot of people forget that marriage is about loving one another. Spouses forget to treat one another with respect, and they wonder why their marriage didn't work out the way they wanted it to.

It is about much more than love. A relationship can only survive with mutual respect, trust and caring, and there is no way these feelings should be all one sided.

This is a great point. If you don't love someone and everything is about the physical, things just won't mean much. Once the physical becomes the norm and you begin to feel the 'been there, done that', then what's left? I think this is what leads people to cheating. It's what caused me to cheat.. not saying it's a good excuse, because there's no excuse for cheating, but it's what happened to me. I really regret it.. I think about it every single day. I hope one day I can forgive myself and move on.

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-Brittany Brydahl

People are also lead astray in marriages because they want something new or they find themselves slowly hating their spouse. The first person who is understanding is usually who you end up cheating on your spouse with.

I think all of us have seen this: someone will go out of their way to be nice and helpful to other people, overlooking the fact that it might negatively affect their own spouse / family. This is just wrong. Your family must come first. If your trying to be a "good friend" or "great neighbor" makes you neglect your husband or wife, don't do it. That's where the line needs to be drawn.

That's a really good point. My mom used to always put friends first, and it didn't prove anything but it tore us all apart. She would always buy food for other people and spend all her money on them. It was like she was trying to prove she's a good person, but then she neglected all of us kids.. it sucked.

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-Brittany Brydahl