Okay.

Why I asked right?

Take it like this.

There's this wedding that I attended to.

To make it short lets fast forward it to the scene of opening the gifts.

Then WOW!

They got FOUR kettles.

Three shoes.

Seven kinds of wine.

And more.

And what's more.

They're all the same.

I mean WOW!

Its okay, I know, there;s nothing wrong with that.

In fact there are couples that does not accept any gifts at all

And so I ask, what do you think?

Should they at least ask them what to give to them or not?

If not? What do you think is the best way to solve this problem?

Well, here in the US people have lists of gifts that the guests can look at and mark what's already purchased, to make sure there are no double gifts. That way, you are not actually "asking" for gifts (which does not really seem appropriate to me).

I personally think this is a good idea, you know that your going to get wedding gift, so why not mention what you need! But to be honest this is something seemed extreme in the Asian society, its seems rude and greedy! So for Asian weddings it a bog no no! However some families have done this in the past and rather go with gifts they need than having unwanted and useless gifts.

I think it's kinda embarrassing to put a list of gifts in a wedding. For me any gift would be fine even if they're the same it's the thought that counts.

best way is to include gift receipts. If they don't like the gift they
can take thre gift receipt and gift to the store and exchange it
for something they like.

-F

or gift
gift coupons

Asking them what they need isn't a bad idea, so they don't get a lot of stuff that doesn't really cover what they need for their home or whatever. Definitely gift reciepts.

I think a gift registry is the best way to go. You make sure people know what you need and if you get it, it's all good, if not, well, at least you don't end up with four kettles like this couple did.

It's really tough to decide that what gift should be given. There are chances of double gifts. If the person in your close relation where you can ask them about this. Otherwise I feel giving money is the best option. As the couple can purchase anything from this money of their choice.

As in most cases I have done the same. I also feel that you should not gift someone just for the sake of giving something. It should be really useful, admirable.

My friend recently got married and the whole reason I didn't go to the wedding is because I didn't know what to get her haha. I know, bad excuse, but I got nervous. Guess I let my anxiety get the best of me