It's so upsetting to see all the pressure teens have constantly to have sex. I know it really got to me and that's the whole reason I had sex as early as I did. I wasn't ready to have a bf and wasn't ready to get into a real relationship. I was just so sick of people knowing me as the virgin girl. I would not advise that to anyone else. If you're a young girl and are a virgin, don't be ashamed.. it's something special and you'll know when the time is right.

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-Brittany Brydahl

Virginity is special and should be kept by everyone. Don't let other people pressure you to have sex if you still don't have a BF. You need to have one before you do the dirty did.

That's a great point. I mean, it's also very important to have a bf a while, really get to know each other before getting into the physical. If you get into it too quickly, that can become the main focus of the relationship and that always tends to complicate things

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-Brittany Brydahl

This is true, peer pressure is awful and it is up to us as parents to make sure our children are well educated and know the consequences and help guide them and hope that they do listen to us and wait till they are older and in a strong solid relationship. It's a huge fear of mine with my children, because I know if they end up having children or worse that it's their life changed forever.

That's another reason I'm just not ready to have kids. I want to make sure my life is stable and I can take care of myself and make mature decisions before I can help another person with EVERYTHING. However, it wouldn't be completely terrible. My bf is absolutely amazing!

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-Brittany Brydahl

You bet, I can't believe someone laughed at me when I was 15 told him I was a virgin. It's like what the heck, being a virgin isn't something funny. I hate people who thinks they're better when they're not virgins anymore.

I think a part of it could be that they're jealous because they feel they messed up so they tease others. I really admire those who are virgins still. I wish I would have waited until I was 20, instead of doing it at 17-18 lol. It's something you can never take back. Plus, I hate that I did it just to shut people up and shock them

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-Brittany Brydahl

I didn't have any problems about my peers pressuring me to have sex when I was younger. I think it depends on the environment you are in. Although there are TV shows or movies that encourage pre-marital sex, I'm not affected at all because of the way I was brought up. I studied in a catholic school from preparatory to college. Both my parents have conservative Catholic views and my friends also so there's no pressure at all for me.

See, maybe I felt more pressure because my mom was always drunk and had a BUNCH of random guys over. I always said I would wait and never wanted to be like her, but maybe being around that affected me more than I thought or something..

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-Brittany Brydahl

Our parents do effect who we are. Normally its thought that it would be better if they didn't, but we cant change that, they do. We can't chose our parents, but later on in life we can chose not to be like them. My mother was a drunk as well. She worked at two bars and when she wasn't working she was drinking and being the town bicycle. I promised myself I would never end up like that. When I was very young (it was about three days before my 13 birthday), I was raped. I never had the choice to give my virginity to whom ever I wished. I have slept with a guy I have known for a year and a half and have been dating for nine months. He is, willingly, my first. I wasn't pressured in to it either. I know that at almost 18 it isn't probable, but hopefully, he is also my last. I don't want to regret such a thing and I know that if I don't stay with him, I will. I love him more than I ever thought I could love anyone. It's odd and most people would say, "Oh, young love never lasts." but I really hope it does. I wish more girls could hold off for some one they truly love, though. When I decided I was going to, I made myself sit down and write out all the reasons why I wanted to. In the end i decided that my reasoning was fair. Before We actually did have sex we sat down and talked about it. Consequences of things messing up, our plan if things did mess up, and so on... Because I had already had my virginity taken, I did not feel like i was losing anything by sleeping with my boyfriend. I'm very happy I waited until I was out of public high school to do so, though. Advertisement is a large amount of pressure on teen age girls. If they learn one of their friends is having sex, they all have to be doing it. Its very sad. >.>