Hi,

I have this problem. There is a guy that I have never met or talked to; he was working at company that I used to work for. He’s an CEO at this company. He is short and not my type at all. Have never talked to the guy, so I can’t imagine what is going through this guy’s mind. There is chemistry and attraction to be tested when you meet someone., but this is not the case. I have never met the guy, only see the pictures on the Internet. I know people and the only thing I could think of is that other people spread rumors about me.

Somehow, I indirectly specify that I was not interested in him to a group of his friends. His friends follow me around and see what I do and say. Whatever I do or say is interpreted as having something to do with him and that something is interpreted that I am interested in him.

I can't do whatever I want and not be interpreted as something that has to be about him. I even tried to indirectly say to him through his friends that it was a no and I am not interested in him in anyway. For some reason, they do not take that message as a no but continue to speculate and assume that I am interested in him.

I feel grossed out by this and don't know how to stop this because I want to be able to do and say whatever I want and not to be cautious of my actions that might be interpreted as I am trying to tell this guy that I am interested. There is no dispute about it; a no is a no. I don't know how to get this thing into his head, so he could direct his energy to somehwere else.

I know his email, but I am not sure if it is approppriate to tell him off. What do you think? How do I do this, so I can get this guy out from my hair. It’s worsed because I never met the guy. I am getting signs that he thinks I am interested in him and that he is interested in me.

Thanks,
Signed "I am grossed out."

There, that is your problem, next time directly specify that you are not interested to his friends.


-F

exactly ... just tell his friends that you are "grossed out "

BB, You and I should start a radio talk show ;-)

Yup we could dole out common sense and sarcasm in equal measure ...