I know two (2) ladies who have remained single even if they have reached their 'life-begins' stage. But as I look at them and interact with them, they seem to be genuinely happy. So I concluded that maybe theyre alone, but thyere not lonely. In other words, life as singly-lived for them is LIFE!

I would agree. Being single is an enjoyable phase in life for some women. It means freedom to live life on their terms and do what they choose. Having the option to travel if they like, with no strings to tie them down. It sounds like these ladies are enjoying life.

how do they handle the comments from people about their single status? and not forgetting the "trying" by married men?

There are woman who just plain and simple don't want to get married. They enjoy their independence and want to keep it that way. I have a friend like this. She dates and says it's not worth the hassels. I guess she hasn't found Mr. Right and isn't looking for him. The one thing she was missing was having a child, so she adopted. It isn't for anyone to judge how someone wants to live their life.

oh yes, you are right. nevertheless, it does not stop people from asking and judging...

I have a couple of friends who are the same way. They date guys but aren't with any 1 person for a long time. Hey whatever works for them is what I say. To each their own.

I'm happy in my relationship, they can be happy however they choose.

There are people who wants to remain single, because they don't want to loose their freedom and their identity too. They want to live in their own and are happy.
But I believe in relationship and I love to be with my partner.

Being single doesn't necessarily mean that you'll be unhappy for the rest of your life. I have an office mate who's in her late 30's and still single but having a great time. She dates often but she had no plans of getting tied down. Once I dared to ask her why she opted to be single and I was shocked to find out the reason. Its because she is scared of to giving birth. Isn't that a bit odd?

well guess that's here fear too, giving birth to some is a God's greatest gift. It's a choice though stays single and don't want to have partner's in life.I don't have plans in settling down.

I am 36 years old. I have been married and divorced and in 3 other relationships (1 of them being current). 1 of those relationships almost destroyed me. It happened almost 5 years ago and it still effects me today.

My points is--women who are single do not have to deal with that. I have always thought that I "had' to be with a partner. I could not be alone. I am in a relationship now but have a better understanding that I don't have to be in this relationship to survive. Sometimes, honestly (although I love him very much) I do wish I was single again. Maybe it is out of selfishness. Not because I want to go out to bars, or hang with friends---but because I had peace when I when it was just me and my children..lol Plus, I could come and go as I pleased. If I wanted to pack the kids in the car and drive 7 hours away to visit a friend some weekend, then I could do it. I wouldn't have to worry about what the other person was thinking.

I think being single gives that person a sense of freedom. They can live their life the way they want to with no hassles. Yes, the miss out on the love that we share with our partners---but that is where good friends (or even a pet) comes in.

Thanks,sweetvtmom, for sharing your life experiences. I am not having any serious relationship at this stage. But, your post made me think how important it is to find the right person instead of simply ending up with someone due to loneliness, pressure from society or any other reason. Kudos to you for coming out of your relationships stronger!

You know there really isn't a problem being alone as far as I can see. Its just peer pressure that push people to look for someone they can be with and so they end up with something that they don't like. I for example, grew up alone. And even now when I experienced being with someone already, I still find my happiness being alone.

Do you think you'll feel the same way 10 years from now?
20 years?

-F

yes, i do agree on that even though some people consider it as a curse. being single is a blessing, they are actually the ones who are more productive and fulfilled in life. isn't divorce the number one that causes hollywood people to go crazy??

Many people find single life is for them, there is alot who like to marry or settle down with someone but it's not for everyone. I know many people who live alone and are single and just love their life immensely. Personally I love sharing my life, some days I may feel or wonder what it would be like to be single, but then I look at my children and I am glad I am married with children.

I was single for a long time and never really felt the desire for a partner, or even a relationship. Then one day a little buzzer went off and I felt like I wanted to date, a year later I had married the man of my dreams. I was happy when I was single, and I'm happy now. Dating was kind of a drag though.

Living alone or in company deponda apone the strength of the mind and selfwill.some do have such good qualities and live lonely to the earth end.but many cn't and the Almighty also created Eve for Adam to lead their life.

The happiness in living alone will be different from that when you are in couples. only willpower can give you such happiness when you are alone.married life will have to be faced in many ways.

being single all ur life......dunno if i want it tht ways or no.....

but def i feel tht being single all ur life in co. of some good frens n close family i dont see any issues there.....as far as the romance n intimacy is concerned there is always dating.....sometimes u jus feel tht y should i not live my life with my own terms n conditions n the way i want also....the responsibilty of the partner is always there....n issues which at times are jus unwanted.....

in all being single or getting married is def. an individual's choice.....

lot of times due to the society around.....women have to get married ....(specially in countries like India)

I like that ladies, I remembered my psychology teacher say, if a single person is happy maybe it is her/his choice to become single, but if they are those that easy to get angry then its not her/his choice. Maybe, the attitude of a single person vary on their past experience. Haven't you encountered this type of personality of a single person?

I've been single all my life. Never wanted children, and marriage always looked to me like an unequal division of labor, and an unequal division of emotional work.

But I'm often viewed as a threat to married women and their husbands. Men are often more friendly when they're married, and it's hard to be a singleton at events where all the couples are nuzzling each other. So my social life is somewhat different as a single female.

Widows know what I'm talking about.

I think deciding to be (and stay) single is a self-confidence thing. Some people can't stand being alone and decide that they have to be with someone. If you can't learn to be by yourself first, you shouldn't be in a relationship anyway.

Well I am 34 and still single and I honestly can't see myself getting married in the near future. I've been told many times that it's going to a lonely journey for me if I don't get married. But honestly I have stopped caring about what other people say a long time ago. I am happy where I am right now. I am currently living alone while both parents are away on vacation, they will be gone for at least 6 months and I don't feel lonely at all.

My 44 years old aunt still remains single until now. She is always jolly to join kids in reading and supports kids activities. I wonder, do you think she want to have a child of her own? Because, she's been close to children.

she's probably happy to hang around with other kids and not have the
responsibility of raising her own kids.

Lots of women on my dad's side aren't married like her. I wonder if it's genetic or if it's got something to do with their upbringing.