Do you think a woman who refuses every guy who courts her and say she does not want to have any boyfriend or husband because she just wants to enjoy her life alone really means it? What do you think of this?

it's her choice.

I don't think she really meant that for long. I mean, for me, this is only an excuse of a girl if she doesn't like the guy. It could be that she is not yet ready to get into a relationship. Girls have different personality. Have you encountered girls like that?

That it is none of your business..

LOL!!! Very nice said Busy Bee

Well, I perfectly agree with kyles idea. That could be just one of girls excuse to say that he's not the type of man as my partner. By the way, how do you rejects a man who is courting you? I mean, do you immediately rejects him?

There are lots of reasons why girls won't commit to relationship yet. However, they don't mean it for so long. Some girls just don't know how to say "yes, you may court me". How many times did you ask her? If you did it several times then, you should look for other women.

Hey that's one of my alibis. I usually say that if I really don't like the guy just to reject his offer without hurting him that much.

A girl could reject a man because she doesn't want a relationship (right now) or maybe the guy isn't her type. Some women are more focused on their career and don't want a relationship to get in the way with that, so when a woman refuses a guy she probably does mean it. It all depends on the individual.

I agree with you Reira. We don't like men to be hurt by saying directly "no" to them. I think it could be a polite excuse. Takatenamo, try to make friends with her instead. I'm sure you would get a "yes" to that.

I suppose some women do mean it, but only until they meet the right guy and fall in love. When she falls in love, her views will change. So, in a way, it is true that the real reason behind the refusal is that the girl does not like the guy.

WEll, I would say that would depend on the man the woman is talking with at the moment. If he is not her type, then she does not want a boyfriend. That is a subtle rejection of an advance.

I can't speak for anyone but I would like to think that they mean it. Why would you say something that you don't mean anyway whether it is about someone's advances or anything else? I think that playing games never end well and that we should always say what we mean instead of just trying to play hard to get.

I agree with Butterfly... if she says this then why wouldn't she mean it.... not meaning it will get her the exact opposite of what she wants.... the truth always comes out in the end... so it's best to be honest and be yourself. Games and foolishness are just a headache that no one wants .

Ouch. Well, it MAY not be my business but I think there's no harm in asking specially when you experienced it and you're just really curious. Hmp!

Thanks for that. Oh well, I guess there's a lesson in any mistakes so I'll just take this stupid step that I did as a first one.

Hmmm... I think either she really means it, because she doesn't want a bf at the time, or she could just be playing hard to get. She may want to see if the guy will continue to try and get her. You gotta admit.. we all like to feel wanted

I agree... everyone wants to feel wanted.. but playing hard-to-get games isn't healthy. It's best to just be honest... tell the person you're unsure of what you want. We hate when men play head games, so we shouldn't do it either.

I really look down on the people who play hard to get. I don't see the point. Either the guy wants you or he doesn't. Games are something that all my friends seem to play. They're always like: don't call him, make him call you... make him say I love you first. I just don't wanna go by any rules. I take my relationships a day at a time and see how things go. I think it makes it a lot more fun

There can be many reasons for this kind of girls in doing so. May be she is not ready for friendship at that time. May be someone is already in her life that she does not want to tell that person who encounters her. May be that person is not according to her choice and she is waiting for the compatible or suitable partner.

If I said that, I know I would mean it. That sounds exactly like something that I would say. There's nothing wrong with that. It's not every woman's dream to be a bride.