Who here has had money get in between them and their significant other? It's so hard when you really love someone and they just aren't making the money you are, or they can't find a job at all. It's not a good feeling to know you're going to have to take care of someone. I can't stand people who lack motivation and have no goals in life.

How have you dealt with this? How long do you think you can wait for someone to find a job before it's just too long? I personally feel, if they don't have a job in 6 months, then there may be a problem.

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-Brittany Brydahl

You are absolutely right !! If your BF/ spouse doesn't have a job, or is earning less than you, eventually he might develop some kind of an inferiority complex. You cant wait indefinitely for your BF to find a job. At the most 3 months perhaps! On the other hand, if it is the husband who is without a job, you cant do much about it except perhaps doing your bit to help him find a job. I dont see how any girl would marry a person without a job! Anyways, he must have some source of income atleast!!

I feel really bad for my bf right now, because he has a job and is constantly working so hard. You should have seen how many places he was applying for and how often he was following up, I was very proud of him. He's the kind of person who wants to do well in life and has so many goals.

It's not like I don't have goals, but my anxiety really does hold me back. At my last job, I was having panic attacks so bad that I had to quit. It was really messing with my health overall, because I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, it was terrible. I worry that I will never be able to have a 'real' job again. This is why I turn to online jobs to make money. However, I have yet to find a job that is well paying. It's hard being an online writer!

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-Brittany Brydahl

I've never had that problem before, but I can understand how one person not working can really put a strain on the relationship. The best thing that you can do is encourage them and help them find work.

It most definitely is one of the biggest issues a couple can face and it can be quite hard to deal with. But I figure that if the other person is making reasonable efforts, I can't actually blame them for not working. It is hard for me to say how long would be too long though...

In a relationship, I don't think that you can put a time limit on finding a job. What would you say? Find a job in 4 months or I'm outta here"! When a person is unemployed they can become depressed. In the economy today many people that are unemployed are individuals that have never been without a job.