I remember as a child, I used to witness my parents fight. But when it was fight, it was more of my late mother opening her mouth about financial matters and also about females looking at my dad. There a came a point that I was the one who suggested to them that if they can't get along, then they should get a divorce. And I added that if both my sister and I were asked with whom would we go with, I said that I was not going with any of them.

There were these fights that we as children witnessed and also remember. But what I am proud the most is that both of my parents still had that strong will power and the determination to make the situations survive. They both thought about us. And that was the most important decision that they made. They gave importance to the family that they tried to put together.

And if anyone owes anything to anyone, that would be parents to give the chance to the children to grow older as a complete family. Of course, with the course of life, it is not easy to do things as saying it. It's the will power and the principle that you can stick with that you think is important. If starting a family is important to you then it should be important in saving it when things get tough.

I'm speaking at a standpoint of those families that at least survived the separation. And I give that honor to my late mother and my understanding father who withstood temptations. Do you think the rest of the couple in the world will be able to do this? What are the ways that relationships can be saved?

Excellent post! I agree, people need to put more effort in saving their families, especially if there are children. Endless fighting is not good, and children will be traumatized by it as well, so it is important to work hard on th relationship and try to get along. Easier said than done in many cases, I know; but no one says it is easy.

I think couples can stay together if they really put all of their efforts into it. Going to marriage/couple counseling may be a great place to start. However, if one person isn't trying, it may not be as effective. Overall, it really depends on what the issues are, if someone is cheating or doing something that the other person can't forgive, then it may be best to get a divorce adn try to move on. No point in staying if you know it will never work and you won't be happy.

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Wow that's a very inspiring one. Glad that your family stayed together no matter how tough the situation is I think that's what making them stronger.

I would say that marriages survive more due to mutual tolerance than mutual love between the partners. Parents should try to put up with each other for the sake of the children. It is only a matter of 'give and take' on the part ofboth the parties involved

I hope I never get to a point with my bf (hopefully one day husband) where I feel that I am tolerating him. I love him so much and just respect him as a person. I've never had someone complete me so much. I feel that I was missing something but never knew it, as corny as that sounds lol. I never thought I could feel this way, EVER I hope with us, we can keep the mutual love. If we are just tolerating each other then I would hope we could talk about it and try to work on things, and if not, then we should just break up. I don't think people should stay together if they try and it's just not going to work. (That's why having kids is something I would wait for a LONG time for) I mean, if the parents stay together when they are always fighting/arguing, that's not good for the kids either. I think it depends on each individual situation.

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I don't think that staying together for the sake of the children is the right thing to do if the relatioship between the adults is so strained.

If the couple do want to stay together then they will have to work at it, but doing it for the kids is not the right way to go in my opinion.

If more people went to counseling, more families would stay together, with their problems worked out and not swept under the rug. Unfortunately, many folks are too proud to go to a counselor, they don't want to share their problems with a third party.

I honestly feel like people give up way too easily. Something happens that upsets them, and they leave. I think if people communicated more, relationships would last a lot longer. I have experienced this myself, and it's made life really, really complicated. If two people love each other, they will try to make things work. I'm not saying people should stay together no matter what. But, if you give it a good try and it doesn't work, that's fine.

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You are absolutely right Brittany. I've seen it so may times: instead of talking things over, people store them inside, steaming silently (while the spouse has no idea that something is wrong) - and then BAM! They're fed up, they can't take it any longer, etc.