One of the reasons for divorce and separation is and hasty decision of marrying some one you just like. This happens because sometimes people confuse themselves between love and infatuation because they don't proper time to understand whether they really love each other or not.....

Thats very true, hasty decisions generally turn out to be bad, and why rush into marriage. Seeing a difference in infatuation and love is difficult by the person who is in the relationship, so its always best to wait and give the relationship time before deciding upon marriage!

Although I had an arrange marriage my parents gave me enough time to get to know my husband and think about it, whether I could be happy with him or not! Love was kind of out of the question as it was an arranged marriage which i agreed upon myself, as i didn't find anyone myself. Today I am happy with my hubby and have a 2 year old son!

But the people who have more to think about are the ones who find their partners themselves!

This is why I think people should be together for a very long time before getting married and having children.

My husband and I first lived together for 3 years before we got married, after being together for much longer.

My younger sister did the same thing with her first partner. Lucky for her that she did really because when she lived with him she found out that he had been hiding a pretty serious drug addiction problem from her.

Another reason could be compatibility. By this I mean not only the measure of how much two people agree in almost anything but more in how they try to understand the other in times when they cant agree with the other. If theres no compatibility such as this, separations could very much be at hand.

People often marry for wrong reasons (which they sometimes readily admit a few years later). I see this happening all the time. Someone married because she wanted "out of the house." Someone else married because all their friends did. Someone else gave in to family pressure. The list can go on and on. In most cases, such marriages are not happy, and they often fall apart.

I have a friend who married early because she wants to run away from responsibilities at home. That was few months after his father died. She's the eldest of six siblings.

Yes, this seems to be a prevalent reason for a girl. I don't get it. Wouldn't they have to have all the same work and then some when they have their own family?? Of course, in your friend's case, there would be no five siblings to take care of, so things might feel easier, at first. But then her own kids will show up, and the fun starts again.

Respect, understanding, contentment, trust and acceptance are some of the factors that should be considered before getting married. Communication is very important as well. There are a lot of reasons why couple decides to divorce. When you feel you fell out of love or unhappy with the relationship, divorce is actually not an option. Give your self a time to think and have a serious talk with your partner.

I totally agree. My nephew was married last year and his wife was like this. I think that she just wanted to experience the whole wedding day. About 3 weeks after the wedding, she asked him to move out. He said no, that he loved her and wanted to work on their marriage. After about 9 months, she filed for divorce.

Yeah they're not totally thinking about the future. What they only consider was their eager emotions. Getting married needs to be planned not to be rushed.

If I could turn back the hands of time, I'd live in with my partner for about 2 to 3 years before I get married to him. Or I wouln't get married at all. Marriage does not guarantee any future commitment or happiness. It's just a piece of paper that makes the partnership legal and that gives the civil registrar the authority to enter the partnership into their books. Of all legal contracts in existence, the marriage contract has the most vague terms and conditions. People should not rush into a marriage just because they think they are in love. I think the partnership should be tested first, if it works, go ahead.

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I agree with the above comments; however, there are also people who love each other and are compatible when they get together and still can't make it last. Not all relationships are meant to last forever as we all know and there are sometime who fall out of love as well.

The reason people get a divorce is because people don't know how to work their problems out unless the problem is abuse or something serious. What happened to the "for better or worse" thing that people promise during the ceremony?

It's too bad when people get married too young. I think that it's true, you should live together first. This way there are no surprises. Be with someone for a long time to be sure it's the right match.

I can't imagine getting married to just get married and have that wedding day.

some people get confused between infatuation and love.. infatuation comes in younger age and it thinks without him/her life wont exit.. love should come with maturity and things like future plans get considered when wanting to marry him/her ..

Well this is quite sensitive because there is no actual basis on how to measure love or just an impulsive feeling but definitely you will now what is your feeling especially when it comes to struggles in the relationships.

marrying for the wrong reasons would really result to separation. love should be a reason for marriage. and the love should be nurtured even after the ceremony. Make the marriage work and open communications might avoid separation

I agree with you. I think soooo many people rush into thing and get married just because that's what "people do".. well, that's not true. There are TONS of people out there who have never married and may never and they seem to have the happiest relationships, from what I've seen...

Then again, I do understand that there are the people out there who don't have sex before marriage and stuff, so that would make things more complicated, I'm sure