I am married from past 1 and half year with somebody who was never keen for marriage. Being only son he was forced to get into marriage institution. He told me that he wanted to get married to his cousin with whom he was living before marriage; they have similar thought process and likes. Same interest like practicing Buddhism (SGI), OSHO, arts etc. She is his life. I am also free to look for someone outside marriage. And let’s live life of our own.

I kept on waiting for his interest in marriage and me, and tolerating his threats for divorce for almost a year. We had no physical relation during this as he always uses to discourage, deny or ignore it. He wanted me to pay half expenses, no rights and obligation toward each other. He says either accepts me the way I am, or leave me.

Whenever I raised these issues to his parents, they suggested me to pray and things will be alright.

Last year his behavior became so intolerable that I decided to end up my life, because nobody trusted me for whatever happening inside four walls of house, but unfortunately survived. He promised me things will be ok. I saved him from law on that trust.

Now, with pressure of society he is now not threatening me for divorce or no verbal statements which are wrong but still maintain distance like before. No relationship, even when I initiate he is like deadwood. And still has continuous relationship with cousin, don’t know up to what extent.

These were the things happening inside house, and I can't really prove these allegations. I left his house almost 2 weeks back. When relatives asked for divorce, he got agreed within a moment for mutual and also to give back amount we spent in marriage.

But my question here is “was my life an experiment or object which he used for his purpose”. He was not interested in marriage why just to show society he got married w/o any respect for this instituion. Are these kinds of people (Him and his cousin) dangerous to society???

If I file for divorce, will get it easily and also money spent in marriage. There will be no punishment to him, but for me those few lakhs is yearly income. And then he will be free for life to spend with the way he wants to. There is never been any compatibility issue, because marriage never begin.

Do we have any law to protect women from such non visible crimes?

My sympathy goes out to you on what you went through. It must have been very difficult for you to be living with someone for a year and half who has no connection with you in any way, what makes it worse is that your in laws just ended the problem by saying to you pray to god.
For your husband I dont think marriage was an experiment but it was something which he thought he could do to look normal and then carry on his affair with his cousin so things look normal, but what he didnt think was how his wife would feel and what she would go through. Marrying your cousin is not allowed unless your muslim, and in this case I think that your husbands relationship with his cousin would not have been accepted by either families or society.
He was very selfish to do something like this.

Yes you could file a divorce case, but procedures are long and take time, if you have the courage and can take time and hassle to go through with this then go for it. Sometimes a person wants to go through things like courtcases to show the other side how miserable its been and also put them through hassle, which gives a self happiness and satisfaction.
But then again it will keep stopping you from moving on and starting a fresh life.

The decision is yours....but whatever you choose to do....good luck

No way marriage is an experiment! I dont understand one thing, if you knew about your husband having a relationship with his cousin, why did younot leave him then, instead of wasting a year and a half of your life thinking that things would be ok??

I think you should file for a divorce and ask for the expenses of the marriage be paid back.

Marriage is not an experiment, but obviously your husbanf thought it was. LIfe is precious and so is time. I think you should not waste your time with your husband and move on.

its so easy to say get divorced....but what would a woman do after getting divorced if her own parents don't want her back......I am divorced and I thank God for the two things first for the divorce and second I am happy I dint have any kid........

Its a sad story XYZ_Delhi, and what you are going through. I mean first of all your married and going into a new life and then find out that your husband isnt that one bit interested in you. Its clearly your husbands fault that if he knew he wants to be with someone else, but still dragged you into a relationship knowing it wouldnt ever work out. In a way he took advantage thinking he could keep his relationship on the side. The advice I would give is get separated, because the time you will be with your husband you will live in grief and not being loved, which is no point. When you will be separated you can start your life fresh and easily, as you dont have any kids yet. Good luck.

Its true Joo it is easy saying get a divorce, but in this situation of XYZ_Delhi, its evident that if she stays withher husband its not going to do her or their married relationship any good.
It is difficult for those women who want divorce and dont have parents to go back to for support, but it would be good if parents would support their daughters if they go through such phases in life. Even friends are good for support and help through such times.