Completed 6 years of marriage.Husband is wanting to seperate along with in laws.Don't have kids yet.I still have love for him but yesteryears were very difficult and i have tried to fight d situation in every possible manner i cud.Now it's over my level. had left job 3 years back.I am a B.Com(h) with a (one yr) PG diploma in financial mgt which i did from distant education . What options do i have now for my career and life ahead.Should i persue education ahead first.If yes then what are the options.

Sorry to hear about your situation Reshma! You say love your husband, do you still want to get back with him? Are there ways for you two to get back together? If yes then it would be to start on the relationship first, if not then you should continue with your further education.
Study will keep you busy, help get you life back on track and allow you to focus on something which you want to pursue a career in.

I think you could study anything, whatever you interest may be...

Best of luck and keep the post updated on what you did

First I thought not to reply. But could not help it. I am sorry to hear about your Situation Reshma. Coming from a family with a history of separation and divorce, I left my family when I was a teenager. It was a decision I wont regret ever. But every case is unique.

I vowed I will never give any trouble to my wife which my mom and sister faced for years. So the only way to do this was to get lost and do something of my own. So here I am today, separated from my family but happily married. Todays age of technology has brought my family closer to me. Its a good feeling but after many years.

If your husband is making the wrong choice, one day he will come back to at least express his feelings. And you need to get on with your life, you know your family better than anyone. If there is hope for reunion, nothing like it. It took me 10 yrs of effort to try keep my mom and dad together. Eventually it failed. I wouldn't want you to waste a decade trying to patch up a hole that can never be repaired.

Re discover yourself if you want to be free. "Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same."

God Bless.

well, if u have completed 6 yrs n still struggling, then there seems no end 2 ur ftuitless-effortful struggle. when six years of love n affection havent done, one cant expect anything further. n in india, everyone knows d harsh nature of inlaws: demanding dowry, beating for work, etc. so according 2 me d first thing u need 2 do is KEEP UR INLAWS ASIDE N TRY 2 CONVINCE UR HUBBY BY LETTING HIM UNDRSTAND N FEEL UR PROBLEMS N UR LIFE N TRY 2 MAKE A PATH FOR YOU TWO TO SETTLEDOWN SEPARATED FROM INLAWS. IF IT WORKS, U R D LUCKIEST
n if doesnt work, ur second option is: go ahead, forget all d past n restart ur personal life once again as if u r nevr married. B'COZ WHEN 6 YRS OF SINCERE TOIL HASNT DONE ANYTHING, WE CANT EXPECT ANYTHING ANYMORE N D MOST IMPORTANT THING: "UR LIFE" ITSELF! HAPPY DAYS MAY COME BACK AGAIN. EVEN IF U LOSE UR HUSBAND, OR EVEN UR MOTHER OR FATHER, U MAY RECONCILE N STANDUP 2 FIGHT BACK WID UR TIMES, BUT IF U LOSE D NEVER-STOPPING TIME IN UR LIFE, THEN THERE WOULD B NO MEANING 2 IT. GO AHEAD, CONCENTRATE ON UR STUDIES N SHOW D WORLD (INCLUDING UR INLAWS N HUSBAND) HOW GREAT, GOOD N SUCCESSFUL U R N THEN, U NEED NOT BOTHER ABOUT UR HUSBAND: RATHER HE HIMSELF COMES 2 U BEGGING...

N THEN ITS UR TURN- WHETHER 2 ACCEPT HIM BACK OR NOT


ALL D BEST!

I agree with Diana, you need to put your inlaws to one side and talk to your husband, have a one to one with him. Its different when you talk with others around or when there is another influence around.
If things dont work out then continue your studies or job, carry on with your life and make the most of it. You have tried your best and if things have not worked out its not your fault.
Take it in a positive way, although its easier said than done but maybe its for the best.