Could you believe this? Or did this ever came into your thoughts. It sounds really annoying to me when my ex still bothers me. I mean after we broke up he keeps on calling me, sending some emails and IM's. Then I talked to him and said that it was over so he has to live his own life now. He said those words to me and it makes me really mad.

In my own opinion, when a relationship ends, there could be no regrets. I don't think I would still find him worthy after that. Both of you must move on. Was you relationship with him ended well? If so, he wouldn't annoy you that much.

Well, somehow I agree with your title. You will never know how valuable someone till you lose him/her. Maybe he feel like that so he said the words to you.

But yes, if the decision to break up has been taken, both should not regret it.

ya its true.. we are able to realize a person when you miss them.. if you avoid any one.. you will be more surrounded by their thoughts.. no one can fulfill their place in your heart..

I believe we ended it well. I told him already that it's not really going to work out for both of us. I thought I made it clear to him but he sure is persistent. O.O

Yes this is true. When a person is always there with you it seems that there is nothing between you because its just like an ordinary day but watch out when suddenly the person disappears you tend to look and search for the companionship. that would be time you realize that she is important to you.

yes this is true. an ex of mine realized that after we broke up. we have been together for long, but never realized my worth until I was out of his life. he did some mistakes, gave him a chance but then he commit the same mistake that's why I left him. and after that, he keeps telling our friends how sorry he was and how stupid he was.

I really do think this is true. I don't think my bf really knew and saw how much I did for him until it was too late. Now, he wants me back and tells me how wonderful I am and all of that, but I'm not going back to him...

For me, it worked the other way around. Since he's been gone, I've never been happier and I see how badly he treated me. I will never let that happen to me again.

My advice to you is don't answer when he calls... even if it's you telling him to move on... or that it's over.... its that interaction that he wants.. and as long as you are giving it to him, he will continue to call.... change your number if you have to.. but if it's really over then you need to end the communication.
And if he didn't realize what he had while you were together.. who wants him... a good partner doesn't need to lose you to realize what they have... as far as I'm concerned, that's an excuse men use once they realize that the grass isn't always greener!

When a couple breaks up, everything should end there. Regardless of regrets, or lingering feelings both people should go their own way and leave each other alone. This is the easiest way to heal from the break up and get on with the rest of our lives. It doesn't matter if the other party realizes what we've done for them too late - it is done and over with. Sometimes we make mistakes and all we can do is learn from them.

I agree. When it's done, it should be done. However, I'm the WORST at giving it 'another chance'. Please, anyone.. if you're thinking of doing this, DON'T!!! If he/she is the one for you, you wouldn't have left in the first place!! Please just move on. You will find someone better. Don't do what I've done TWICE now! It's not worth the pain. You'll have to deal with guilt trips and all of that. It's no fun

BUt others say that love is sweeter the second time around. Well, I do not want to sound martyr but if I love the person, I would give him a second chance. But that is if I still love him. But if not, then that's the final good bye!

but in your case, you no longer love the person and i think there is no need for you let him get you back. i've seen great advises here, why not change your number and cut his contact with you?

I agree... and I have actually changed my number in the past to cut contact with someone. It works!

That could be true.. hmm makes sense..

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-Brittany Brydahl

I did gave someone a second chance. actually, I gave second chances to two of my exes and yes, it is sweeter. but I give up to second chance only.

I have heard that too but I've never seen it to be true either. I have a couple of friends who gave a second chance to their partners. Needless to say, it didn't work out the second time around either, and they felt even worse when the relationship finally ended. One of the gals ended up having a breakdown and had to go to therapy for months. I just don't think it's worth the trouble...