When you have more than one child your mind sometimes diverts to taking more care of the child which needs it, as in if that child is more emotional or stubborn or even most often attention to the youngest child, simply because they are younger. But this is a place where parents go wrong, although they don't do it intentionally, but it has a bad affect on the other child, as they feel neglected and unloved. And if this gets into the kids mind, then it can hurt them a lot and affect many things in their life such as school, their friends circle and self confidence.

No matter what its important to show equal love and affection to all your children.

Oh yes I totally agree.

You have one child that always demands your attention. Not necessarily in a good way even but you are constantly interacting with this child.Yes NO nO NO!!

****It is very easy to see the easier child as - an easier child and not pay additional attention in their direction.

Looking back over my parenting time - my son could be a little pain and very demanding.
Daughter was so easy, willing, reasonable etc

I was conscious to commend and reassure her but you know, I wish I had have reminded her of that more often - that I so much appreciate her willingness to listen, and try hard and I never never take that for granted.


I tried to teach both kids to understand that getting all of the attention doesn't necessarily mean it is a good thing.

But being acknowledged for their efforts and good behaviour is something that they can feel proud of.

Never let them feel overlooked but highly valued. Maybe even some special reward. Movies together etc. Just the two of you.

Hoping someone may benefit from what Hind sight has shown me.

It is very important to treat your children equally. I've experienced some unhappy thought with my parents when I was a kid. My parents have their own favorite son/daughter, how about you? I observed that, the youngest were most attended. It somehow gave me an emotional trauma that I become bitter to them. However, I understand it now. That's why I make sure that I'll be able to treat my kids fairly. Let us show them all that they are loved and cared equally, kids need those affections.

Equal treatment matters to the siblings. Each would not be insecure with the other if all have equal love and attention. Parents have a favorite child. Well, I think it's normal however, they should not forget their other children. Am I right?