I have recently got married and have got married into a joint family, where its my husband, myself, a younger brother in law and mother and father in law.

My marriage was an arranged marriage and my husband and i both talked and met each other before marriage and were happy about the arrangement.

I got married went to my in laws, but my stay at the beginning was as pleasant. I found it very odd living with people i didn't know, interacting and learning the new way of life with my in laws. I began hating it and really wanted to move out, i thought my in laws hated me and many other thoughts came into my mind.

Being a working women i thought that my in laws hated it but didn't say anything to me, and there was a certain gap between them and me!

It was until one day when i had a day off and it was just me and my mother in law at home. This was the day where I realized how wrong i was in understanding my in laws. My in laws never said anything to me or asked me too much as they didn't want to be noisy and make me feel trapped in the house, instead of me forcing myself to adjust to their lifestyle they wanted to give me time! I felt very bad of what i had thought about my in laws, and i shared with her what i had felt.

I'm not practically best friends with my mother in law now, and we all are happy and in our home. With me working she helps me out a lot and says whatever she feels and I do the same with her.

Lesson I learnt from this and something which I can pass on to people is: Talking is the best thing to do, become close to your in laws and becomes friendly and most important understand them, this will make your more happy and your life easier!

Thanks for sharing your story Anu, and i think a lot can be learnt from your story and it will aid a lot of newly wed women to get along with their in laws and understand them better!

That's a good lesson learned not too late. I did have a good relationship with my mother in law. We always talked and talked whenever we were together. She is gone now.

That's a great lesson to learn. Sometimes it's so easy to feel things that aren't there. There have been many times in my life where I have thought someone didn't like me or was mad at me, but they were just distracted or having a bad day

I definitely agree. I have always had an amazing relationship with my mother-in-law since the first time we were introduced to each other. I am the type of person who is very blunt and so is she. Thus, we don't hold anything back from each other and we don't get into any conflicts.