I was always a quiet person when in front of many people and when at work and also with new people, with friends i was ok and mixed in well!
But being quiet didn't do me any good especially when i got my job at a housing company! I had one of the worst manager, and me being quiet didn't help me, instead I was kind of bullied around in a way. I just didn't know how to say no or i cant do this, instead i just got loaded with work, and then if things didn't get done then I would simply get blamed for not doing them on time, or not letting the manager know that i need help (at many times i did ask for help).
I couldn't do much as it was a temp job which would lead into a permanent job, and it was a job that i got after a long period of 8 months!
Work carried out like this for a long time, even when i became a permanent employee, but there came a time, when i went straight to the MD of the company and told him straight that i have too much work, and a lot of expected from me as compared to other people. Thing for ok but for only a short period of time. I carried on the way thing were, as i also enjoyed work, so i tried to forget the bad things and went with the flow.

There came a time when there was going to be a clients get together and 3 of my clients were going to be there, i was told that i was going to go along with another team member, which made me felt good. It was until a week before the event i was told that im not going and someone else was going instead of me, i thought ok that's fine and didn't think much of it!
After the event the next day i spoke to the other girl who went instead of me, and asked her what all clients came, as i thought there was a change in the clients that were coming, and apparently there were two of my clients and that girl who went instead of me had none of her clients there!

I didn't know what to think of this, was this racism (as i was the only Asian there in the company), making me feel bad, and deciding to opt me out because i dont say anything to anyone, i didn't know what it was, but it made me feel bad!

I soon left that place and looked forward to a better and confident life, and I made sure from then that i stood up for myself and not to stay quiet when i don't need to!

It's good to hear that you're standing up for yourself. I'm not Asian, but I'm also quiet like you, and I've had similar problems. People will walk all over you if they think you're nice or timid. You just have to know when to stand up for yourself and know when to say no to people.

I have always been the opposite. I have never kept anything inside and always made sure that I've expressed all my emotions as I felt them. I must admit that it is not always the best thing to do; however, this is my nature and I accept myself as I am.

I was thinking about this too. I want to keep quiet about things happening between us especially when it involves some other parties. Although being that kind of person is really being sarcastic. Isn't it painful to carry those burdens on your own. I also want to avoid arguments so I keep it low but if I can't really take it then my mouth will start talking...

I have an intrapersonal characteristic this is actually something that my friends would think that I'm kill joy. Well, the truth is I just don't want to get along with them. But don't worry for that having this characteristics its just normal to a person, we just have a multiple intelligences. Do you know that a person who have this personality are those who are brave?

I used to be that way too, and I realized it would get me nowhere. So I learned to stand up for myself and for my beliefs and principles. It wasn't easy at first. I had an inferiority complex. But when I broke my silence, I was surprised that people listened and took me seriously. You just have to say the right words to the right people and avoid confrontation.

What do you mean by that? I mean the last part of your statement is still about being quiet? I happened to be always the kill joy of our group especially towards my hubby's friends which I don't seem to like. I don't even talk to them I spend the whole evening playing psp rather than mingle with his friends.

How does it make you brave? Anyway, I'm also one of those introvert people. I never really enjoyed large crowds because I always get shy and intimidated. I'm trying my best to get out of my shell but it'll probably take a long time before I become comfortable in my own skin.

Yeah that's why I envy those people who has a lot of gutts and confidence. Sometimes it's really hard to change your personality because that's you from the begining.

I am like Howard Roark. Always confronting people if I feel they are wrong.

Its good to confront people, its better than being a back stabber and saying something behind someones back! I wish i was more like you too!

That's sooooo wonderful that you're speaking up now!!! You should really give yourself a pat on the back! I know how it feels to be shy and quiet and it's just soooo hard to come out of it. I think you're going to do very well..

Best of luck to you!

-Brittany

Yes, you have to speak up once in a while, and learn to stand up for yourself. It does not come easy to the quiet type of a person... I know because I am the same way myself. I'd rather be left alone and quetly do my work. There are, however, people that see this as being defenseless and will try to take advantage of you. You have to fight them off.

I go through fazes of being really loud, confident to states of just not wanting to voice my opinion. I think ever since I started my own website, I've learned that I just have to voice my opinion as it is. It's not healthy to hide how you feel. No one should be scared to be who they are

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-Brittany Brydahl