Do you think arranged marriage is a good idea? My mother and her best friend would like to set an arrange marriage for my sister and her friend's son. I asked my sister if he liked the guy but she wasn't able to answer me right away. Do you think I should talk to my mother?

While I think that everyone should follow their heart, I have heard of arranged marriages that eventually worked out well, even with genuine loving relationship starting in such marriage. I have also heard that some people actually prefer their parents to help out, for whatever reason, and trust their judgement. But no one should be pushed into an arranged marriage. If they don't like the person, it should be their choice to refuse.

well! arranged marriage is best advised unless the patners adjust each other & understand each other well, and if any problem occurs elders will also try to solve it along with the parents.

Arranged marriage is a good option for people who are shy or
cannot find dates by themselves. As long it is not forced
I am OK with arranged marriages.

-F

I agree with arranged marriages, provided both parties consent. What I do not like is young people being put into situations by their parents where they are effectively forced into marriage.

You're right, guys. My cousins and I, are actually concerns with them if they're relationship would work well. Recently, I asked again my sister, she told me that she's scared to marry a person whom she don't love most. Do you think its right to stop them as early as now?

i think arrange marriage better ....in my point of view...love or arrange marriage anything can be ..it is depend on their mutual understand...life is in their hand...

Arrange marriage is fine with me. Does your sister have a current relationship with someone? If so, she should talk to your mother. You just have to be supportive with her.

I would say leave it your sister to talk to your mother... as it is your mom and her friend are involved ... give your sister some space ...

Arranged or otherwise a marriage is a good idea when the ppl getting married think it is a good idea

Has your sister known the guy already? I mean, your mother could have set a date for them. Why don't she give him a chance? I'm pretty sure the situation is hard on the part of the guy too.

arranged marriage isn't bad at all. just as long as both parties consent to this arranged marriage and it is not forced upon them or it is not against their will. also, it is best if no blackmail or threatening is involved since i have heard that some families go to the point of threatening or harassing their children just to get on with this fixed marriages.

I don't believe that anything that is pre-arranged could actually work, unless the two parties fall in love by some chance. Marriage is such a sacred institution and should not be done upon other people's choices made for us, it is just not fair...

I recently read about arranged marriage in another forum. and it actually sounds nice. as long as you get to know each other first before jumping into marriage. but I think it is still better to marry someone you really love afterall you will spend the rest of your life with him.

When we think of arranged marriage, we usually think of people being forced in it. There are all kinds of movies / stories about that, so it's the first thing that comes to mind. And of course it should not happen. If parents think their child should marry someone, but the child is strongly against it, they shouldn't be forced in it. But sometimes, in some cultures especially, children don't mind, and approve of the parents' choice. That's different, and that can actually work.

Arrange marriages are scored as successful marriage in comparison of love marriages But I feel same in both cases. Actually everything depends on each others understanding. Either you find out your partner or your parents. The fact is you must like that person. You should definitely meet that person before marriage and i am sure u will try to understand him in that meetings. Ultimately the aim in both cases (love/arrange marriage) is spending life with a good life partner, who understands you. Whom u r comfortable with. that's it.
But however you do feel you should talk to your mother and let her know what you feel. But don't judge anything because its an arrange marriage.