Your point on this; he/she cheats before you two got married or he/she cheats on your married life. My experience goes with, my boyfriend cheated on me and glad we're done. I don't give chances. Especially third-party is involved.

If you are in a marriage there are alot of factors that you want to consider before just giving up on your marriage. I am not saying that everyone who cheats should be forgiven. Before giving up on a marriage, I would go to counseling to see if there is still hope.

It's a tough question... I think I would send a cheater packing. When the trust is broken, it is hard to repair, and I don't know whether I would want to, either. If I'm not good enough and he wants someone else - he can go and be with someone else.

It's a difficult one, I'd like to think I'd send him packing but if you love someone alot and both are prepared to work on the problems and try to overcome what happened it can be tempting to give it a try. Affairs happen for a reason so I'd be asking myself why they strayed.

Cheating on the PArtner......

maybe for a lot of reasons.....like external affairs, blackmails, office pressures, not happy in the personal life, etc etc....

Personally, I would not tolerate such cheating if my partner does but I would take a decision only after listening to my partner.....& also discussing it with my parents for sure...!!!!

Hello, let me hear your opinions on this view.

My boy/girlfriend always gets whoever they want and they do it even thought we're a couple. Its cool because it means that you have a very handsome'beautiful and or great girl/boyfriend that he can even get to date/see someone else even though he/she's yours.

Do you think this analogy is something fair?

If you mean that you have an open relationship where your partner takes other partners for intimate acts and you are fine with this then it's OK however there are many people who would not find this OK for many reasons, is your partner using contraception ? mixing partners can be dangerous. How does it really make you feel to know that your partner, the person you love is whispering sweet nothings in someone else's ear while performing the most intimate act possible ?

@ takentenamano - I am sorry but i quite could not understnd wht are you trying to explain...? its a bit confusing ....so could u pls clarify a bit in detail......

after reading wht mommy 2 has written i could figure out tht u dont ve issues if ur bf / gf is indulging with any intimate acts with tht other someone.....I dunno but personally I would not agree or allow my bf provided the relationship tht we would be in is a committed one....

though i would still prefer tht my husband /bf should neva indulge in any of such activities.....

That's obvious..
But exception do happen(@takatenamano)..


Even i won't tolerate this kind of situation...

This is really a tough question, if my partner cheats me I would not accept it at all. But I will first discuss it with my partner then only will take any decision. I think one should take a positive approach if the matter can be resolved then why not to resolve it, in spite of giving up your marriage to which you have given a good amount of time.

Sure. It is something between you and your partner. It will be
difficult to do but not impossible. I think the equation changes
a bit when you have kids. Kids come first. As long as you can
carry on your duties as a parent, and your partner and you
agree with this I am OK with this.

-F

Now that I am a little older and wiser I would have to agree with you. The problem is that I could never truly forgive or forget and I would be devastated.

I would like to say that the relationship would be over, but I sincerely hope I will never have to experience it.

i guess no one would want a partner cheating on them....

It is not 'cheating' if your partner knows and approves of it ;-)

-F

but who would allow things like this for their partner??/

Hillary Clinton? ;-)

-F

You should give him a chance to explain first unless proven and caught by you. But anyhow, you still have to give him a chance. If you think his explanation is reasonable then hold on still with the relationship, but if not, don't waste your time with him.

If I found out that my partner cheats on me, I would still give him a chance. I would need an explanation for that. But of course once is enough. If he does it again for the second time, then there would be no chances anymore. Do you think we could still find plenty of men who doesn't cheat?