this is my question to u all . i was married at the age of 18 now im 31. my hsbd use to abuse me every time and im not sexualy satisfied from him. im in love with other man and have a baby girl from that man. my problem is that i love that man very much but always feel shy while making sex with him although i had baby from him. i never denied my hsbd from sex. my all the financial needs are filled by that person even we got married in the mandir and i wear mangalsutar given by him. he come to me only once in a two month even then i do not allow him for sex . he always had complaint in this regard. he is single( separated from his wife). tell me am i wrong denying him from sex . truth is that he do all that what i need during sex and i reach to the orgasm. should i leave my first hsbd and start living with this man. is the demand for sex by that man is right because he always say that he is my hsbd and i m agreed with this. am i doing injustice with this man by denying of sex.he never forced me for sex . i know that he too need sex with me as im his wife , what can i do. now he said that he will not come to my house but he will be always helpful for me he will take all responsibility of his daughter and mine also but never ask me for sex. plz advise me what i can do.

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This story is pretty confusing. I am having difficulty distinguishing
between the two men in this story. Could you give names to these
two character so we understand the situation better.

thanks
-F

first man is with whom my parents marry me. second man from whom i have baby girl is whom i love now and i have married to him in mandir. mean now i,m married to two man but living with first husband. second man come once in month or two. second man support me and my babies financially. my first hsbd do not support me financially and he is drinker. i never deny first hsbd for sex but always deny second man for same. am i right or wrong. my second hsbd never forced me for sex but my first hsbd do it forcefully. in my view i'm doing injustice with second man. he loves me lot and i cant live without him but i'm not in position to leave my first hsbd. this second man not only support me financially but also emotionaly. tell me am i wrong . which of my hsbd have more right to have sex with me first one or second as both r my hsbd and i wear mangalsutar of my second hsbd. i justify myself for two hsbd as dropdi had 5 hsbd then what if im married with this second man as he loves me.

hmmm, this is pretty complicated.
I need some time to analyze this and provide my advice.
In the meantime please do continue sleeping with one or
both of your husbands.

thanks
-F

plz tell me am i doing injustice with this second man( my second hsbd) by denying him for sex, as he come to my house only once in a 2 month. how can i make him happy. the truth is that he make sex with me the way i like most whenever i allow him. he know how to handle a women.

Great . If u love this second man so much then y can;t u leave ur first husband. I think this second man also have equal right on u. U must allow him for sex as he fullfill ur all wishes then u too do same. U said he come once in a month then u should spend that whole day with him . U should allow him for more days.if u dont want to divorce ur first husband then u should take proper care with both while doing sex as not using condom may lead to std. So give equal love to both and enjoy ur life.

dear heena u said dropdi had 5 hsbd but for your kind knowledge she give equal respect and time to all. why don't u do this. give equal time to both infact you should spend more time with your second husband as he is your love and give you support. why are you playing with his emotion. if you dont have time for him then leave him.