It has been said that during the first year of married life, all types of extremes happen. Whether it be the good or the bad extreme, it has been claimed to happen during this time. Is it true to you? Which one is it on your marriage?

My first year of being married there were many times when I would just sit and wonder what I had gotten myself into.

It takes alot of adjustment living with someone who has different living habits than you do.
We had lots of fights, but also lots of making up
My suggestion would be to stick with it, talk things out, and remember why you married this person in the first place.

My first year was actually easier than what followed, despite the many difficulties that we did have. We lived in an old house that I loved, had jobs we both liked... Then sh*t started happening, one thing after another. As I look back, I can't believe what we've been through. We are still not completely out of the woods, so to speak. The good thing is though, we stuck together during all that. The bad stuff was coming from outside our marriage, not rising from within.

I don't think its really true. We were in a good place when we got married, it was getting pregnant and starting a family that changed the whole dynamics of the relationship.

My priorities changed as I became a mother for the first time, before that, life was about working hard and playing hard.

Over the last 13 years we have been throught some terrible times, but these events have only served to make our relationship stronger.

Bubble's post reminds me of what one good friend said to us when my husband and I had just gotten married. He said, "Getting married is no big deal. It is when one of these shows up" - here he pointed at his daughter - "that your life will be changed."

My first year of marriage was pretty tough. It was a challenge getting used to living with someone so different than me. It was and still is quite an adjustment, but I'm learning.

My first year of marriage is not yet complete but its really tough when you have to fulfill your Husband's and his family's expectations as per their norms. And think from their prospective too before every act you do. But Inspite of all this I also enjoyed a lot my married life.

Open communication really helps and not being to high on pride. Married life isn't easy total different when your still in boy-girlfriend stage. Making things work out and deeper understanding ways to happy relationship. But I'm not saying to be martyr. I don't count that.

I think the more you know about your spouse before you marry - their views, background, family traditions - the easier that first year will be, although there will still be some adjustments. I knew my husband well. However, there was one aspect about his family that I had no idea about, and it had hit me hard later on. I was not his fault, and thank goodness we don't have to deal with his family that much anymore.

It does get easier and better once the both of you get each others personal likes and dislikes down pat.. That's a huge start !! Lotsa Luck and Congs !! Many years of growing and learning/sharing a happy and content life as one.

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marriage life is different but even i am happy with my husband and his family I used to miss my parents and not able to spend time with them as before...

Yes it is true. Just like what many says, when you are planning to get married to a man, think of it up to the thousand times. Think of those factors that you don't like in him because it is only a little of it that you are seeing and you will discover most of it after getting married. If you will still be able to love him inspite of those discoveries them you are really ready to get married. Still, communication is the great solution to every problem.

It was a wholesome relationship during my first year of married life..I only experienced tremendous friction with my husband in the 3rd year of companionship. But it was patched up then ,right away.

We are officemates with my husband before we got married. Hesitation and extreme respect is still applied.I mean, no shouting and abusive words have been spoken out. But after three years ,something new to his utterances which i got hurt upon hearing it..I just calmly asked him not to be tactless. .

It was also a great challenge during my first year of married life.Because we both have no parents anymore .My husband was the youngest among 11 children in the family.Then ,I am also the youngest among 9 children.This means that our both parents have been passed away .We can hardly search parental good guidance .Yet,we were able to make our marriage life happy.