I need some advice on how I can rekindle the spark within my marriage. Life seems to have gotten in the way a little bit and both me and my partner are exhausted after working and taking care of our children everyday.

Our relationship seems to have gotten left out and needs a bit of a lift.

I would suggest going out on a "date," just the two of you. Can you find someone to watch the children for a couple hours or so? Go see a movie and have a nice dinner. Or whatever else you both like - bowling, listening to some live music, etc.

If you can't get a babysitter in just start off by setting aside some together time. You have to go out of the house. Get the kids to bed early and just spend some time together.

Send the kids out of the house and just spend some time together alone in the house. Rent a movie and don't think about work or chores or anything else except for the two of you.

I agree to the date idea. My mom and dad used to do that just the two of them. Just set some 1 day of a week or a month with just the two of you spend a quality time together without the kids. Try to do some stuffs you used to do when both of you are still dating.

Why don't the two of you unplug all of your electronics (phone, TV, computer, etc.) and don't leave the house. Just spend some time talking, and maybe you'll find out some things you didn't know about each other.

If finances allow, I'd rent a room at a nice resort, just for a day or two. We have one nearby, with a beautiful park and walking trails, so the best time to go there would be in summer.

How about laser tag?? My husband and I went to play it, and it was a blast!

This is what we call a life .After getting married and having kids you cannot spend time for your selves,but don't worry here some tips why don't you take a leave from your job and you both try spending time with each other when your kids are off to school. Try to spend the left over time recollecting your first meet, your first date....etc I think this will definitley help you.

You could always go on a couples only vacation. If you know some more married or dating people, go on a double date and leave the kids at home.

It's healthy to have a "couple time" just for you and your husband at least once every two weeks or once a month. Just spend time doing what you both love to do and don't worry about the kids. Sometimes, you can surprise him with a candlelit dinner when he comes home. Be creative. It doesn't have to be fancy. Good luck!

He can

a. take up golf
b. buy a porsche
c. have an affair with the secretary
d. all of the above
e. none of the above


-F

It's time to make new memories! If you spend time talking to each other and find that you have nothing new to talk about, then you need to do something fun, interesting, and spontaneous. Just like with a friendship, you need to have fun with each other.