hello everyone! i have an issue i need help with, or at least advice.

i was engaged to be married to a man i dated for three years. here's the friday the 13th news. my fiance's son moved into his home, and afterwards, my fiance found that he had cancer. lets call my fiance jb.

jb chose the road to digging himself a hole, not accepting any support i tried to give. you would think that he would really need someone to lean on! i was hurt as i had to tell friends, and family, all people in the wedding, that everything was over. jb told me to hurry and try to get my fulltime job back, (as we both made an agreement that i would go part time to finish my bachelors.. I was to move in his home before our wedding. his son's disrepect for jb and myself, opted me to keep my apartment.

so there you go. working part time was hard.. keeping up with my school work.. facing the fact that i lost a large amount of money that would have really help with working part time lost money from the wedding that wasn't.

but the saddest part is that jb turned into a person i didn't know. well that was almost a year ago, and i finally got my full time position back, made an excellent score in my course work, moved into a new apartment. i thought it best to do so, because there were too many memories of jb and me. Ouch! i was really hurt.And I'm sure he was too. i had to tell you all this to ask my question.

now that jb is doing better, he wants to date.. He said misfortune i went thru without him, made me stronger. now guess what? all the cancer treatment left him in a finacial pool of misfortune. when we go out, he pouts about how much money he spent on dinner, or any date. looking at what i've shared with you, if he asked to marry me again, which road would you take? please respond, and please.. leave love out of this... i'm very cautious right now with him. sometimes you just can't mend a broken heart.

cherrie

Well Cherrie first I was going to say that if you love him then go for it, but you have mentioned to leave the love out.
So thinking practically and the best for your future you should avoid getting marrying him, afterall you have become a stronger person, whos got a good future, why let it go down the drain or give chances for your life to go down. You dont want to be in a position to be paying up his debts after getting married, instead you can be saving up for a bigger home, car and simply spending it on yourself and your brighter future.