Hi maam i am 24 yr old. I am getting married in june.Since 6 yrs i had very bad habbit of fingering myself.Will it create any problem for me after marriage.Will it affect my body????Will my partner came to know abt it??Is it going to craete problem for me after i marry???During talks my fiance told me that he is virgin and expect me a virgin.I too told him that i dont have any affair with any guy in life also its truth.But what abt this bad habbit.During my college days i got this bad habbit.I am very much confused. During my college days i stayed in hostel.I never had affair with any guy, but in hostel we did some wrong things. My roommate sometime masturbated me with objects.That time she use to say nothing happens..Now i am facing the problem fr things which i did in past....what should i do???Will he leave me after marriage??I am from small city in india...here these things counts too much..what to do??

shouldn't be a problem.

tell your fiance. he is a guy, I bet he has done what you have
done 10 times more ;-)

If it burdens you and you feel you should tell him, then go ahead and tell him. You did not lie when you said that you had no sexual relationship with a man, but if you feel that you need to confess these things, you probably should.

I feel very strongly that you should be careful to accept advice from those who don't know your culture. I am American and a typical America man would be ok with it...but you are not married to an American man so it is important that those giving you advice understand this.

The only advice I can give you is regarding the health effects of masturbation. The benefits are nothing but positive... The only negative effect might be if you rely on mechanical tools such as a vibrator which may desensitize you to a natural touch, but if you are using only your own hands, then medically there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. It is a very natural behavior and nothing to be ashamed of. It is not a bad habit. Now perhaps your culture looks down on it, but trust me it is a very normal thing to do!

She just use some object to masturbate in hostels. If virginity is really an issue, you should tell your fiance. There's nothing wrong with it, you just explored your sexual side.

If he leaves you, there are other guys that will accept of who you are. Other guys who are far better than him.