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Old 08-12-2009, 05:43 AM
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I know that many people marry because of a pregnancy. Shotgun marriages use to be a practice for unmarried pregnant women. Is it practical to force a marriage because of pregnancy?
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Old 08-12-2009, 05:50 AM
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No I do not believe that it is right because a person is pregnant . It should not be forced ... I know someone that was forced and she is so unhappy now because of it ...it is not right to have to do that to someone
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In my opinion, pregnancy should not be a reason why couples get marry. If the guy proposes for marriage, then that could only mean his ready to take the responsibility. For me, if he did not, then don't force him because in the long run, the marriage won't work. Would you agree?
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In my opinion, pregnancy should not be a reason why couples get marry. If the guy proposes for marriage, then that could only mean his ready to take the responsibility. For me, if he did not, then don't force him because in the long run, the marriage won't work. Would you agree?
I totally agree with you, Kyles 414. You don't have to force yourself to get marry when you are not yet ready. Marriage is a term commitment. Women could stand on their own. I think man does too. What do you think?
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My son just married his girlfriend who is pregnant. The first thing I said to him is that I hope he isn't marring her because she is pregnant because that is not a reason to get married. He assured me that he would be marring her whether she was pregnant or not.

I definitely don't think that you should get married just because you are pregnant. It is going to cause more problems than you already have.
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Yes I strongly agree to this. You shouldn't just use pregnancy as a reason to get married. Soon enough they'll realize that they're just forcing theirselves into a relationship which they didn't want to in the first place. It should be from the heart.
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Yes I strongly agree to this. You shouldn't just use pregnancy as a reason to get married. Soon enough they'll realize that they're just forcing theirselves into a relationship which they didn't want to in the first place. It should be from the heart.
There are so many young couples that are doing this now adays to fit in with the rest of the crowd and on top of that the girls at times feel as if they are not getting the attention they think that they need at home so they go lookin in the wrong places and end up getting pregnant .
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Well you shouldn't force yourself in the marriage because of pregnancy, but it depends on how you take it or what culture you are in. But in the long run you shouldn't just marry and be stuck in a relationship because of pregnancy. You can always try the live in relationship and work on that towards marriage.

For example if your were a Pakistani or India then it would be just marry, as in the society its a big shame if an unmarried girl gets pregnant. But sometimes for some people its ok or you can say its easily taken.
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making another mistake to correct the mistake is not the right thing to do. If the reason would only be pregnancy to get married then it is not right. the reason should be love. and besides hopefully the pregnancy is because of love, so getting married would not be forced but because of love.
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A lot of people get married because of an unexpected pregnancy, and they aren't happy at all. Even if someone got pregnant, they should still only marry the person that they love. Life is too short to not be with the person that you love.
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Why do we have to get marry if we could raise the child on our own? Pregnancy is not a valid reason. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and if you stay in the relationship because of the baby then, I don't think it would work. The guy should be willing to take the responsibility and both of you must be prepared.
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People get married because they think that it will keep the family together. They think that they will learn to love each other. It's hard to see how a family like that can stay together if the parents don't love each other from the beginning.
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