How do you measure your love for your spouse?
How do you measure your spouse's love for you?

Is it enough that he brings in money to support the family? What if he does not spend quality time with his wife and children? If his spare time is spent out with his friends, drinking and gambling? would you still say there is love in the family?

I think, when your spouse had more time with friends than family, he/she is being irresponsible. Love cannot be quantified with the money he/she provides, that is his/her obligation, right? Aside from the quality time you spent together, as family, when couple understand, respect, trust and communicate effectively, everything will fall into places. For me, love cannot be measured, it must be shown.

I think one good way to measure love is by how willing one partner is to give to the other sacrificially of his/her time and effort and even finances. For example, if you had your druthers, you would rather spend the evening home luxuriating in some alone time to do whatever you heart desires, but because you know he would appreciate your going to listen to him play in his gig or whatever it is he's doing that night, you put aside your wishes and give in to his, with a joyful attitude, knowing that it's going to please him.

And vice versa. He buys and watches a "girly" DVD movie with you because he knows you're going to enjoy it.

Little things that we do for each other each day are a good indication of the love we have for one another.

An unwillingness to spend quality time with you indicates that he doesn't really enjoy your company. It's difficult to see how one can love a person whose company he doesn't enjoy.

Well, I measure the love by the time being spent to the family. Also by support, financial and moral. Its not like you can love someone who does not give you financial support right? Although both of you love each other, let's face it. No one these days can be fully happy without money.

There is a saying that goes like: "The measure of love is to love without measure".

To me that means giving of oneself wholeheartedly to the person you love. Being with him or her in good times and bad times, sharing the laughter and the tears, the joy and the pain.

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You know, that quote is so sweet but I don't believe in it. There are many instances wherein this is what the women believes in but men abuses it. The result most of the time is a battered wife.

For me, love is measured when each of the member had mutual understanding. Aside from the quality time spend together, two important things are the trust and understanding of each other, right? I agree that money is not a basis for love, it is indeed an obligation.

For me, love is immeasurable thing on earth. Because if you love a person, you don't think how much you gave to him or her. Do you agree?

You got it right, chjoy. Even money is unaffordable to buy love. Do you agree? I had a friend before, she got married to a man who is rich, moreover, she didn't love that guy. Guess where they ended? Well, the end up into a separation.

Is love to be measured? I don't think so. I agree that love is immeasurable. Though, there are some clues which tell you that you guys are enjoying a great love. For instance, if you ever or often give each other gifts with no reason.

For me love is someting worth more than money. Although we need financial support too, still if someone is willing to be with me through thick and thin then I'm sure that the person is the right one for me.

You perfectly get it right, reira. Money can't buy love. Do you agree, that money can cause blindness to love someone?

Well, sorry to tell you guys about this, their are really some who commit a partner just because of money.What do you think are n their mind, is it about practicality or love? Do you think, love can be learn by someone or not?

Well, for me love can be develop. But those who commit their partner just because of money, I think love could grow within them. Do you think marrying a man because of money is all about practicality?

I don't think there is any way to truly measure love. In regards to the spouse who spends more time out than with his loved ones, there could be various reasons for that and someone who responds to forum postings can not possibly give you an answer to whether there is still love or not. The best thing to do under these circumstances is to communicate with the spouse and have an open conversation with him. Nobody can speak for another and you will find the answers to your question only when when he speaks directly from his heart. It might also be a good idea to look at the relationship dynamic between the two partners; most of the time one tends to stay out in order to avoid conflict with their partner. Thus, there might be some questions to ask to one's self as well...

Love is infinite and cannot be measured or weighed, we can't compare love with money that we can't purchase in market for our own. Some people are there who see money and love us in todays life for that we can't do anytthing unless try to escape from them.

I sort of disgree with that portion. Love can be on a sliding scale.
not all love is infinite, you can love some people more than others.
In which case you can compare two levels of love
In which case you can say love is measurable.

for example you love your dog or cat, you also love your child right?
Is both the same amount of love?

-F

You can definitely learn to love someone but it takes time and effort. People who marry others because of their money is not buying love since I think there is no love between both parties. It's more like taking advantage of the situation.

It all varies on the preference you give, keeping your beloved dog & your beloved child in front of you, whom do you love more means, obviously we say my child, why because we give birth to our child with so many pains and with our own blood, so it differs, for the dog the love you show whole heartedly is infinite for it, so i say that it is infinite, we can share the same love with anybody, but it should be pure at heart.

A simple answer, according to me love can not be measured at all especially when answering the questions in this thread regarding measuring love for your spouse!
And love is not about money, at least not in my case! When it comes to spending time with family if things need to be done or there is time being spent with friends by you or your spouse, then it should be understanding that matters in cases like this. In this case im lucky as me and my spouse has good understand and get to spent quality time with each other, so no such situation has arisen.
If its excessive then its a different matter and constant then its a different matter.

My answer is pretty much the same as what Harpreet has said, and I 100% agree that love can not be measured, i mean how would you measure it? lol

To me, love is someone who:
listens
is open
honest
caring
understanding
won't give up on me
has a good sense of humor

Those are the main things. I'm pretty simple I guess
Basically, I just wanna be happy