When we are in a relationship, it is very important for both partners to spend time together. Whether it is a brand new relationship or one that has been going on for years, we can always maintain a healthy balance of togetherness and most essentially, being on our own. Hence, the "me" time.
We all need to have our space, be with our own thoughts, and examine our inner feelings. When we don't take the time to do this, it may bring us to a place where we feel overwhelmed by the presence of the other and in certain cases, we may even begin to resent our partner. Thus, taking a few minutes everyday (besides the chores, work or other activities) just for ourselves by meditating, going for a walk, writing in our journal, or by engaging in any other relaxing action will certainly allow us to take a step away from the relationship and simply ''be''. I have found this practice quite fulfilling and if I happened to take even a longer time away from my partner, it has made me realize how much I appreciate him and what we have together.

I agree it is important to make time for not only yourself but as a couple and I for one don't do this, I am consumed by my children and when they are finally settled then hubby expects quite alot as he works all day long and will not come in a cook, clean or iron, I am expected to do it all. I feel because we don't spend time as a couple that it does have a huge effect on our relationship.

It really does...sometimes with all the chores we have to do we forget that we actually are in a relationship - which is really damaging for everyone. But even a few minutes here and there, like a mini-date with him on a weeknight where you get a babysitter or a picnic on the weekend could really get two people close again.

I think that moms tend to forget about taking the time for themself because we are so busy focusing on our children.

I do take the time with my husband to be alone with him. We have date night once a week so we can connect without the kids right there putting their 2 cents in every statement we make.

I like the me time. Just finding the time to schedule it in will be the problem.

We don't have kids yet, so we get to spend all the time together we want, and yet I still feel the need to have the "just me" time once in a while. It will be far more important when kids show up. It is so easy for a mom to become consumed by taking care of everyone, doing things for everyone, and it eventually wears her out even if whe loves doing it. We all need some time just for ourselves.

I've finally learned how to find time for myself! It took me about 8 months though. (Oops!)

My boyfriend would always be sitting there playing his video games or watching t.v. to relax and I'd just sit there with him.. just because I wanted to spend time, but I was BORED OUT OF MY MIND!!!!

Finally, I realized that by me finding other things to do (Like this site.. which is AMAZING) he now wants to spend more time with me and I don't feel so needy. We all know feeling/acting needy just isn't a good thing in ANY relationship.

By having time by myself, it really makes the times that we spend together more fun and I don't get that 'stuck' feeling anymore.

Great post!!

It's really hard to find time for yourself especially when you got married. Most of the time, you always think of your family, right? Recently, I found out that gardening is good for relaxing. Well for me, it is quite effective. Now, I try to visit our garden often. I really feel at ease whenever I see those flowers in the garden.

Having some time alone for yourself contributes to the feeling of self satisfaction and fulfillment. After a hard day's work, having a relaxing time by yourself, wether in the bathroom, in the bedroom or in the park takes the cobwebs away from the burdened brain and body.

I always have time for myself especially when my hubz is not around so I treat myself with some sweets. Also when I'm alone I do lots of crazy stuffs like watching ecchi animes, play video games and watch movies that my hubby hates.

We all need to take a rest. For me, having time for ourselves contribute to the success of the relationship. Every relationship is stressful, as a result we all get exhausted and we can't barely think well. In effect, this situation could somehow ruin and end up the relationship. Do you think it could be fix? That would depend on the couple. So, a little time to relax and think should not be taken for granted. Enjoy life and don't forget to treat yourself.

Yes we have to feel relaxed because mostly those woman who are always stressed at home or work they're becoming moody and sensitive. One's mood affects the other's mood so as a woman we have to stay calm because for sure boys and kids hate naggers.

Yes, me and my bf just had this discussion about personal time. Since I work at home, I'm always here and he never has any time to himself. I have begun to think of ideas to get myself out of the house sometime in the near future. lol

I totally agree with having "me" time... adsence makes a relationship stronger... and being able to maintain your separate interests is healthy.

My boyfriend isn't someone who feels he needs "me" time.. so he doesn't understand this.. and it causes problems for us, because I really need it.. and sometimes I do resent him because I just want to be alone and be with myself to think and unwind... and he doesn't understand this. It's very frustrating, but I won't let anyone take my time away from me.

I find it very helpful too, even if you don't really have any plans, to leave the house and let you mind have some alone time. It's healthy to let him miss you

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-Brittany Brydahl