Dear indian sisters...

I'm a 25-year-old girl from northern Europe and I'm in serious need of some advice and opinions of yours.

The whole story is long and complicated but in brief...

I got to know an indian guy of the same age as me about 3 years ago via the internet. We have a lot in common and we think about life in the same way and understand eachother very well.
For the first 2,5 years we were just friends until in the end of last year he expressed his feelings to me. I wasn't quite sure about mine in the beginning as I don't really believe in long distance relationships and I sometimes find it very hard to trust people I haven't met (and long distance requires a lot of trust and trust only....
I though had to admit that despite my common sense told me something else I had fallen in love with him, so our relationship got a totally different meaning.

Now for the last half year my feelings to him have gotten very strong, so much that I sometimes feel I'm losing my mind, love literally drives me mad. At the same time I realize what huge difficulties there are because of the distance and also cultural differences (although he doesn't want to admit that cultural differences would be a problem of any kind).

We have been planning our future a lot... talking about him coming to my homecountry and us two getting married and starting a family. He says he is willing to do anything for it and that we will be together inside the next 2 years.

My belief in it is not that strong although I wish it to happen more than anything. First of all his possibility to get even a tourist Visa is almost non-existent. I would get one very easy for coming to India (it's so unfair) and I would do it if he agrees.

The second of my worries is his family. We are of course hiding allthis from both our families as we are sure they wouldn't understand that what we are doing is very wise.

So I would like to hear your points of views on this dear ladies. You know your culture and how people inside of it are thinking and working.
Do you think there's any chance for me and him to realize our dream of getting married? Will his family ever accept it? Can he just like that choose himself that he wants to marry me? Should I even take him seriously?

I truely love him from the bottomof my heart but if the circumstances will turn out totally impossible I don't want to continue. It would be wrong towards myself him andhis family to keep on living in a lie and a rosy illusion.

I'm looking forward to hear what you think, please just tell the truth, I can take it... It's the uncertainty that's killing me

Have you seen him or talked to him directly? There are a lot of
scam artists who do this. They are probably married and want to
have an affair on the side. Make sure this guy is genuine before
moving forward.

-F

Even i am of the same opinion of farce in the matter,,

Honestly, I would be very very careful because you've never met the guy. He could be anyone. Don't pay any money to get him to come to live near you, because a lot of people try to steal money that way. Make him do it and if he won't, then he's not worth your time. Be careful, please! And, you haven't even met him so I don't think you can truly be in love.. a more puppy love or lust or curiosity maybe..

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-Brittany Brydahl