FIRST TIME SEX: Few Facts
How do I have "good" sex?

Its not a set of rules what follows. There are no such rules for sex but what matters is that what you do makes you feel good. Its not at all smooth sailing when you have sex for the first time. In fact there are many fears which are attached to it.

Everybody wants their first time to be perfect. Most of them even think that its going to be something like a fairytale moment. There is nothing wrong with that but one should know that it could lead to some unexpected consequences as well. On one side al the men would want the erection to last longer so that their intercourse could last longer but on the other side if he achieves orgasm too quickly due to rush of excitement it is. Some men even fail to achieve an erection at that point of time it’s a moment of disappointment for them. In that case that might think themselves of being not upto the mark. But it’s a big mistake if you think like that. The session can always be ended with ample foreplay. If things doesn’t work the way as planned in the very first time, there is always a second time. If a man is able to attain erection during masturbation he is considered normal.
What time should we have sex?

Its not necessary to have sex at particular time. What maters is that you and your partner are both comfortable. Some people prefer to have sex in the break of he dawn while some prefer to have it in the afternoon while some prefer having it in the darkness of the night.. The time you have spent with your partner is more important than the time of the day you have sex. You should not be in a hurry to make sex for the first time. Rather give each other a lot of time
Should we eat or drink anything before sex?

We should avoid eating a heavy meal before sex as it would make you feel sleepy as well as don’t drink to much of alcohol if not any. Although it may help you shed inhibitions but at the same time it might fail you to cause an erection.
Where should we have sex?

Its probably a very important decision to decide where to have sex. Finding a place where both of you can spend a lot of time could be difficult at that age when people are going to lose their virginity. Cars are no longer considered enough big to have sex while there is no privacy outdoors too. So abed is probably considered as the best thing to make love in when you have a room of yourself with al the amenities that a bedroom affords including space, comfort heat and a bathroom. Take a shower together and get to know each others bodies. Take your time. That's what lovemaking is about.
What do we need to bring?

Always bring your required stuffs like towels, your favorite pillow, birth control tablets and condoms etc.
Will we come at the same time?

We should not worry about reaching orgasm simultaneously. Some women don’t reach orgasm while having sex for the first time until and unless experienced while the odds are too much against you too that both of you would reach orgasm simultaneously. Enjoy yourself and be open to each other to tell your partner what you like and what you don’t like doing.
What do I do first?

You must tell him/her your likes. A girl can show the guy by taking the initiative like talking his hand and placing it on your body where you like being touched that makes you feel good.. You should not be afraid to ask him/her to change positions. You should be totally comfortable and slow if its his first time as he may be too nervous of what you are about to do and his penis may not respond at the first. Understanding, gentleness and patience is required to bring it back to place, so take much time as you need to do so.
Will it hurt?

While a few women, it does but if done in the right way with the right parter you should be able to take his penis inside your body without pain. Let him take his time, press hiss fingers into you vagina as per your convenience. Tell him when it hurts and when he should go further.

Bleeding? Maybe. Maybe not


It is undoubtedly the most misguided notion people harbor that a woman must bleed during her first intercourse. The bleeding occurs when the hymen splits. However, why is it so difficult to understand that the same hymen which is considered a mark of virginity by many men could also split due to other reasons as in if done rigorous exercise, cycling or horse riding. In some cases, it may even be congenitally absent. It can also rupture when a women masturbates. It there are doubts, should be cleared in the beginning only rather then in the bed.

Thanks for sharing the info. I don't want my first sex to be perfect. I will consider it as a practice. We will have many chances in the future to improve its quality.

A well planned of having a first time in sex would be of good experience ,than having it by force only.

what the heck are you talking about?

I don't know anyone who's 'first time' was the best. Well my first time certainly wasn't. I think it is a little awkward and far from the fairy tale expectancy.

Either that or I have been doing it all wrong!

Lol mine was an epic failure. Hahah mine felt painful and I don't think I should be proud of it lol. I ran away! o.o I think I wasn't really prepared for it.

Mine wasn't too memorable if not for the fact that it was my first time. I would even say I didn't quite enjoy it because it was painful, and I didn't really know anything then, so I just went with the flow.

Yeah that's what happened when we aren't prepared and clueless about that thing. I thought it was boring for my first attempt.

I had sex way too soon, and a part of me regrets it, but I'm glad it was with the guy it was with. I didn't know what the heck I was doing and when it was over I remember thinking, "I'll never be a virgin again." It was the stangest thing to me. So surreal.

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-Brittany Brydahl