This is a weird situation. I'm 39, living with my parents while I get back on my feet financially after my divorce. My parents have uttered those famous words "AS LONG AS YOU ARE LIVING UNDER OUR ROOF..." you aren't allowed to date. Do you see the problem coming yet? Yep, I've got a boyfriend. So how do I say "Hey Mom and Dad, guess what..."

I really don't like not being open and honest with them. I feel like they have put me in this position by saying "as long as you live under our roof..." Part of the reason they have taken this stand is they liked my ex-husband (the abuser).

Yes, they have been demanding and controlling for the past 39 years. Me filing for divorce against their wishes was the first time I stood up to them. My relationship with them breaks my heart.

it would be hard going against your parents, but at your age, you already have your own rights to decide for yourself. try toset a dinner at your house, and bring along your bf, so they can get to know him

I agree you cannot avoid the issue. You should be able to talk to your parents on an adult level and they should be more than willing to listen. Holding it in or hiding it will do nothing ot help the problem. Good luck!

Hi melave, somehow your parents have a point saying that phrase. We cannot blame them because that's their opinion. However, if you are irritated with that phrases, move out, be independent, you have to prove to them that you have your own decision and you can stand for it...

You can do it! Good luck and God bless!

Well, I would understand this rule if you were in your teens or early twenties; however, you are 39 years old and it is long past for them to decide whether or not you should be dating, regardless of the fact that you are currently living under their roof. You will have to tell them about your new relationship and they will have to accept it as is. You are mature enough to make your own decisions and just because they are helping you get back on your feet doesn't mean they can dictate what you can do with your personal life.