I don't know if the distance is getting to me but I'm so frustrated with my boyfriend.

As you all know, no relationship is perfect so of course we have some issues.
I've recently told him everything that bothers me and what needs to be done in order for this relationship to work. He seems to think I am being harsh and doesn't agree with my feelings. It's frustrating to me because I'm not making up how I feel.

He never compliments me... or if he does it's rare and that bothers me. It makes me feel like he isn't attracted to me and wonder why he is with me. Also he is very cheap with me. My birthday passed and we weren't together, but I was there to visit the next month and we didn't do anything to celebrate, no birthday gift nothing. That really hurt... he comes off as unemotional and unaffectionate. It's really been bothering me and has just built up.

When I told him these things, rather than discuss is he got defensive and told me that I make him feel like shit... I don't know what to do. I feel like I can't get these things resolved with him.

Advice? Similar situations?

Its natural to feel frustrated Goodgirl, and every girl expects pretty much the similar things from her guy, but what we got to understand is that not every man is the same. To some men giving gifts is important and for others its not as important.

I think in your situation its difficult because hes not really listening to what your saying and instead is being defensive and blaming you for his behavior!
Ask him what is it that your doing that's making him behave like that, it maybe something small and be able to resolve things (im not blaming you, but its difficult to see your own mistakes). See if any of his reason make sense or not!

I wasn't quite able to understand are you in a distance relationship? If its distance things should really get close instead of him acting that way!

It also maybe that its time to move on, if hes being like and making you feel frustrated and instead blaming you for his way of behavior!!!!!!

But for the time being keep away from him, give the relationship a bit of a break!

I agree with Jyoti. All issues around relationships should be worked on and resolved by the couple and not just by one of the two only. If he is not communicating effectively how he feels about you and behaving in a more negative way, perhaps it is advisable to take a little break. Next time you talk, bring up the issue on the table again with a calm manner and tell him that you really need to address it. Also asking him if there is anything in his life that is not going right would be an opening, as he may be worried or upset about a situation that he may not have been able to tell you about yet.
If that's not the case and he is still unwilling to work on this with you, then you can clearly tell him that it is not acceptable for you to be in a one-way relationship. Because you deserve someone who will pay attention to you and also see your beauty inside and out. We don't need to stay in relationships that don't serve us Goodgirl. I hope this helps a little. Take care

Thank you.. right now I feel like I am at my breaking point.

He's not a bad person, I think he is used to having things go his way in relationships and I really need a two way street.

All relationships should be a two way street. We need to know we are loved and wanted. If he can`t or won`t do that then I would not be with him. There are many men that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

Thanks for that... we do need to know that we are loved and wanted. That's exactly what I need from him.

Yes, I agree with Jyoti that not every man is the same. I even suspect that there are women who don't like to be treated sweet and tenderly like how you want to be treated. So, I am afraid I have to said that the guy is for the kind of women, not for you.

Why do you have to stay in that kind of relationship? You need a break. If I guy would treat me that way, I guess it would not work. If you are not happy, then let go. He is not the right person for you. I believe that we should look for a partner that listens and understands.

@Goodgirl He sounds JUST like my ex! I mean, we weren't in a long distance relationship, we lived together. He just made me feel like all he wanted from me was my body and he wanted my attention when HE was ready for it. It was never about... "Oh, I wonder how Brittany's doing today." It was always about him. I mean, I know I wasn't perfect either, but he was just nothing like me and it took me a while to realize it. I would say, you most likely know deep down what is best for you, you may not like the answer, but it's there. For me, I realized I got with him for all the wrong reasons and it just wasn't gunna work. I mean, I coulda made it work, but it wasn't worth it to me. I wasn't happy. Really think about what makes you happy. I've found, I needed to learn to be alone before I was ready to be with another. If you feel you are with him for the wrong reason, move on and life will keep rolling.. It will be tough, but you only life once.. whatever you decide.. make sure you're happy

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Good advice, Brandy... and you are right.. it's all about understanding each other's need & wants.

Have you considered going to counseling? It may help to get a second opinion on this. If he doesn't want to go to counseling, then maybe he's not the person that you should be with.

It sounds like your boyfriend is either the unemotional type or not very interested. Probably the former; there are, unfortunately, guys like that who don't have one romantic cell in their brain. In that case, you either accept it that you'll never have these nice romantic gestures or break up and get a different man.