Here's a random question for everyone..

Do you think that when you fall in love you fall in love with the person (whether they be a man or a woman) or do you strickly fall in love with one sex or the other?

I personally think that it is 100% possible for a straight woman to fall for another woman or for a straight guy to fall for another man. So, this is why I think it's so weird that we have all these labels. Straight, lesbian, bi.. does it really matter?

I mean, I think everyone has a preference, but I don't think that it doesn't mean we couldn't fall for something else

I agree with you in some ways. But I also believe that being gay is not something that you eventually become, you are born this way. Therefore, I don't think I would be waking up one day and falling in love with another woman. I could very well be interested in experiencing how it would be like but I don't think it could go any further than that. As for the original question, I have always been fascinated by the person's mind and not so much with the appearances - if someone is able to challenge me constantly and that they have a very inquiring mind, it is very easy for me to get hooked up to that person.

I see where you're coming from. That makes sense. Ya, I mean I just can't see myself with another woman.

I'm straight, however I have had crushes on other girls before... I recently met a girl through a mutual friend.. and I was like.. wow, I have a crush on this girl... she's just great! I'm in a committed relationship with a man, so I wouldn't act on these feelings, but it does happen.
Sexually, I don't know that I would want to go there with a woman.. but I definitly wanted to talk to her and hang out.

I think someone being genuinally nice.. and sweet is a big turn on. And men who are good guys.. not the type that make derogatory comments about women. I think when guys act like pigs it's a huge turn off for me. I want a man who is respectful.

Naturally, a woman or a man will be sexually attracted to her/his opposite sex. It is human's inherent instinct, which is very important to keep our species existence. Freud believe that all the romantic relationship is actually based on the sexual attraction. So, what I am talking about? LOL....I mean if you (a woman) are sexually attracted to another woman, it's not the way the mother nature want it happens.

Freud was a nutcase who wanted to have sex with is mother.

Please do not say such utter rubbish on an open forum,Thank you

My intent wasn't to offend anyone, however it's not rubbish at all. Freud was crazy and he was completely in love with his mother in a romantic way.

@ Goodgirl - Who is Freud?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sigmund_Freud

I think i have to repeat again please do not say such utter rubbish ..

Freud developed psycho analysis and .. came up with many theories about human behavior and how to treat the ones who were facing metal difficulties.
like with any other scientist some of his theories were later proved to be wrong , as were numerous ones concluded to be in the right path.


Please have some sort of integrity to read up before you post on a forum

Integrity... the basis of Freud's theories were all on the foundation of sex... Freud was a brialliant man.. but he was a pervert... anyone who knows anything about him knows that much.

Its true what you have said Goodgirl, and even the way you have explained it, and to some extent to what you said about him wanted to have sexual relationships with his mother, kind of explain his level of craziness and weird thinking.
At first when reading about him and his theories, it sounds weird but that's what he is known for.

i think to further this converstaion would have you suggest Plato was a pervert too ..
the point is to not to know "anything" but to have good grasp on such things before you put forth such opinions

Yes.. I'm completely aware of his discoveries, but as smart as he was, he had mental issues himself. He believed that all humans primary motivation for anything in our lives was driven by sexual desire... and as you and I both know, sex can be a primary motivator for somethings.. but its not the primary motivation for all things.

Thank you for that Busy Bee... may I ask you- do you know how much I know about Freud? You don't infact, so perhaps you should take your own advice before you judge me.

I would have thought you would be calling Plato a pervert by now, instead you are simply telling me you know "something " and not just "anything"


Freud referred to libidinal energy not sex as you put it and if you would have not been simply basing your opinions on "somethings and anythings" you would know that

And like i said he did have a lot of theories that were later discarded by the science but the gist of most of his theories have been reworked into the subject.So to call him a nutcase and pervert either shows your ignorance f his studies and only a superficial understanding or that you are very intolerant towards many issues of sexuality . I cannot understand why you would only be talking about oedipal complex here if you did indeed know anything about Freudian works .In fact the word discovery isnt the right one to use at all unless you are talking about his career before he moved on to human behaviour

Well BusyBee i think Freud is quite a nutcase and pervert and pretty much agree with GoodGirl, so you calling me ignorant too? That's not polite! I'm sure that's not something nice to say on an open forum!

Look everyone has their own opinions, leave it at that! No need to judge anyone by that!

Haha ... now that is indeed polite

And i haven't called anyone ignorant .. or a nutcase or pervert for that matter .. ignornace on a topic is nothing to be insulted about none of us can claim to have an in depth knowledge about everything,

To call a person who spent atleast three different careers in aiding science a nutcase and pervert isnt the best way to show ones knowledge

Does seem like popular opinion is stacked against Freud

Poor chap he wasn't so bad you know he simply got some wrong some right its isn't right to call that guy names based on his wrongs and ignore what he got right

@Goodgirl ...

I think this discussion diverted quite a bit from the original question. There are people that are attracted to their own sex, others to both or the opposite sex. That is quite evident in the world out there. Why this happens is still a bit of a puzzle to me but I don't condemn them I just don't understand. I could never be attracted to the same sex.

Yes... I mean... people love who they love... they are interested in people for their own reasons... I have friends and family who are gay and are in relationships.. and they tell me that they have always knows they were that way and it's hard for them because they feel like they are constantly judged.

I don't feel like I need to understand why someone has romantic feelings for someone else.. or which gender they choose to love... just have to let people be who they are and love who they choose.

i agree

hehe... Peace Love & Happiness my darling.

That scared me a bit guys.. I thought there was gunna be a fight here. Glad to see everything is better now. I think I can see where both of you were coming from. Freud may have had his issues, true, but he was also a smart man as well. I think this was a great discussion. I haven't heard much about Freud since Psychology class but I remember hearing about him and his mother.. I'm not sure how much of it was true and all of that, but I remember the gossip around it. Either way, I think everyone has some great opinions here


I agree. I mean, I don't think it's a terrible thing and I don't look down on it, but as far as nature goes and reproduction.. we are meant to be with the opposite sex in order to keep our species alive. I just hate saying that, because I don't wanna be taken the wrong way..I agree with you there 100%. I think we all have had crushes on the same sex, but I couldn't imagine going there either.

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