Okay, so I saw this show the other day and it got me thinking. I wanted to ask all of you two question and I'm really curious your answers and why you feel the way you do. I really want to hear from both sides.. just a little debate or whatever. Healthy communication here.. no fighting

Question #1: What would you do if you had a son or daughter and you found out that there were gay? Let's say, you found out not from them, but from someone else? Would you confront them? Would you be angry? Would you leave it and let them come to you when they were ready?

Question #2: What would u do if you were married to someone for let's say 5 years, had two kids with them and they come to you one day and tell you that they want to have a sex change? Would you be angry? Would you stay with them/leave them? How would this make you feel about yourself?

My answers:
1) I would be totally fine with it. I think I would probably let them know that I know and that's it's fine. But, I wouldn't get to into it. I would tell them if they ever wanted to talk, that I was there.

2) I would be hurt, and I'm sure it would feel like I was losing my husband, but I would still love him and be there for him. Now, sex-wise.. I'm not sure how that would work out. (I really think this would be a lot easier for a woman to accept than a man, because a woman becoming a man would be such a change, and I could see that causing problems) I can't even imagine how much crap people would talk and I think it would really put a strain on the entire family, especially the children. I bring this one up, because I saw a show on tv, a true story, where this happened. It was really sad. The woman felt that she'd lost her husband. She was very confused on what to call him.. was he her husband still or the wife. Their two kids were actually handling it really well, but a lot of parents wouldn't allow them to play with their kids. That would be hard!!

1. Well, for me i will never let it happen because for sure i am a stay at home mom until the time they grow up as real boys and girls..hehe.. But ok, in an instance that I'm not and they grow up like that, just to answer your question. Surely i will be hurt the first time because they weren't the child i wished them to be, but i need to accept it. I'll be the same loving mom they needed.

2. Lol... I found this amusing because i never though a man who already have children can turn himself to a woman after some years... There's a possibility that I will be angry but i cannot leave him because it will affect our children.

1. I would be supportive.

2. I would get a sex change operation too, problem solved.

-F

I'm really curious what you meant by that. Like, do you feel that they would be (let's say it was a boy) less of a man, or anything, or would you still look at them the same?

I like how you think!! That's an awesome answer We are sooo much alike, it's insane!!!

I look at gays as a real man. It just that gays are somehow blamed to parents in our country, having a child as gay is a shame in a community. The belief here are still conservative and not liberated towards gays.

Well, for the first question, it really would not bother me as I would love my kids regardless of what their sexual orientation is - in my mind, there is no criteria to love your kids.
As for the second question, I could not bring myself to stay with him, or her? LOL, no, I would respect his decision and his wishes as I believe people can only be happy if they pursue their desires. Nevertheless, that would be the end of the relationship for me. I have no problems staying friends but that is as far as I would go.

I don't have kids, however I do have younger siblings and I don't think anything would change. I mean, their sexual orientation isn't my business or place to judge. I have family members who are gay, and there isn't ay difference in their relationships in comparision to straight relationships... gay or straight you deal with the same things.. happy & sad!

If my boyfriend came to me and said he wanted a sex change I would be in shock.. and then I would end the relationship.... I don't know if I could stay friends... that would depend on how things ended... I think it would be weird for me... I'd have a lot of questions.