are you in this kind of relationship right now?
you are just in the boyfriend - girlfriend stage and yet you are so far away with each other.
do you think this kind of relationship will survive?

I've seen people in this kind of relationship, others survive it, but mostly there I see more couple who would just end up broken.

would you ever engage in this kind of relationship?

I'm currently in a long distance relationship. I live in Canada and my boyfriend is in the US. We're making it work, but it's hard. However, it's been good for us... the only way to make it work is through compromise and communication... which is something I may not have always been great at. We've learned so much about each other through long chats on the internet and phone. And the travelling is fun.
But its hard... when you are missing the person constantly, have things you want to do with them, going to bed alone... non of that is fun. Eventually one of us will have to move.. and we've already discussed that it will be me, because of his job.
And we do fight sometimes... usually over nonsense... just being frustrated with the distance. I can be upset over anything and it will pour over onto him and us not being together.

If you can do it, I say give it a try.. you never know where life will take you. Just keep in mind that you are in for an emotional ride. It can be fun tho. We have to be creative to keep things exciting. We mail each other gift boxes... (not letting the other person know when it's coming), have video chats, rent movies and watch them together over the phone, and we are in contact everyday.

I was in one and I think it can work. Good thing about today is, there are so many ways to communicate with others. I was spending pretty much all day every day online with him, chatting using our mics because he didn't have a cellphone. I think being honest and open is the best way to make it work Now I live with him!!!! Yay!!

Are you engage in this kind of relationship, Redamethyst? It's quite hard to deal with a long distance relationship. However, if you truly trust and love each other, I guess this would work. My sister is in a long distance relationship and until now, she is happy. Constant communication is the key for this kind of relationship to succeed.

For about 10 months now that I am engaged with a long distance relationship. But still we're getting stronger and better. Open communication and trust to each other is our daily armor to keep our relationship grow brighter. Arguing sometimes can't be denied due to communication gap for just a single day but still we can manage to iron it up. And since I still have 15 months to count before being with him again, all I hope and pray that nothing will change.

You're not going to see him for 15 more months? How often do you talk and by what means.... how are you dealing with this?
I'm also in a long distance relationship... we see each other every two months and I struggle with that... lately we have been fighting all the time and it's mostly due to the distance.

I was once in a long distance relationship. Me and my boy friend had quarrel. I didn't like the way he treated me, I believed he chose his friends over me! Heh, that's what I thought before. I didn't listen to his reasons, I knew he didn't love me!

Because of that, I left him (literally). I worked in a province, quite far from the place where I used to live. And since then, we were in a long distance relationship. I believed that if I am not with him, he would miss me. He would be more affectionate. But guess what, when I got to the province and started working, it's me who misses him!! Haha.

I blamed myself for doing so, I was so hasty. He visits me once or twice a month. It was really sad, but seeing him doing such thing touches me. I realized that he really loved me, and I was over thinking way back then.

So, I decided to resign to my job and be with him! Heh and I promised not to leave him again and I will stay with him -- forever!!!

For me, long distance relationship is never easy. I have thought of working abroad before, but I decided not to continue with my plan. I am gonna miss him! Hehe

it's nice to hear that your relationship is getting stronger. Yes, quarrels and arguments are common in relationships but its good that you can always talk things out. another 15 months before you see each other ? wow that is a long time. i wish you all the luck
take care

I don't think I could handle long distance relationship. I really amaze to those who are engage to this kind of set up. Isn't it too expensive? I really doubt if it would work but I guess it could be possible.

^ we are on the same boat. i don't think I can handle this and survive this. that's why I really admire people who can make this work and so successful, but my choice would still be together with the one I love.

I've done it for a while but it eventually got unbearable and finally I decided to move out to where my then boyfriend, now husband was. I lived in his hometown for a year, we decided to get hitched and moved back to my hometown. Long distance relationships are hard, you either make it or break it, mostly break it though. I am glad that my husband said he would go wherever I would and since my kids are here, I am really glad that he came along with me, as I would certainly choose my kids over him if push came to shove...

Expensive -> YES! Ive flown to see him twice this year... he flew here once.. im flying there again in a month.. he is flying here for xmas.. the phone bill is crazy.. and its stressful.. I mean, we talk everyday, but its the physical we miss... not sleeping beside the person you love just sucks.. no other way to put it.

After being in a long-distance relationship I really believe that unless someone is will to move at some point, it cant last forever. Absence does make the heart fonder.. but it can also grow bored. And the physical part of a relationship is so important (with or without sex) so really I dont think its healthy to be permantly away from each other.

Yes, it really expensive - my flights used to cost me a fortune but when you're in love, you always find a way to work things out.