Im an Asian living in UK, and well for most Asian parents its not acceptable for girls to go on dates and have boyfriends.
Im going out with a guy from school and its been 2 weeks now, I really like the guy and he likes me too, but I also feel bad not telling my parents. But if i do, well i wont be able to meet him, maybe they will confiscate my phone and all.

Is it bad what I'm doing?

Should I keep on dating this guy I like?

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How old are you? If you are still very young maybe you should just be friends and talk to each other at school. If you are older like 17 or 18 you should talk to your parents. Even if you can't go out on dates maybe they will allow him to visit you at your house. They will get to know him and then they might just allow you to go out once in a while.

Im 17years old! Him coming to my house, no way you must be joking! Like I said im from an Indian family, having bf's at this age is a big no anyway, well going out with boys on dates is not really acceptable anyway, and then bringing him home would mean chaos!

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I can feel your pain when I was at that age I don't tell my parents that I'm dating someone. They're being over protective to me so I secretly dating someone before but oh well we can't keep secrets forever sooner or later they'll find it out.

I personally feel its alright to go ahead as long as you keep your age and your long term goals in your mind ....

But as to whether to tell your parents or not is a decision you need to make yourself .. depends on how close you are to them and and on how guilty you feel if you don't tell them..

It's difficult to give you advice. I personally feel a 17 year old is definitely old enough to have someone special in her life. I have an 18 year old son who doesn't have a girlfriend at the moment but that is his choice. I would prefer when he has a girlfriend that he brings her home. You should be finishing school soon. What is going to happen when you go to college or start working and move out of the house?

I want my kids to tell me everything, even if it is bad but obviously your parents have different views from mine.

I too feel that its not good to hide things from your parents, but being in an Asian family is very different, like I have said before its not acceptable having a bf for me. Its like a society thing too, protectiveness, care whatever else it may be.

The thing that makes me think is that my friends are going out with their bf's, without their parents knowledge too!

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That is, unfortunately what happens if parents are too strict. As you say it is a cultural thing and it will not be easy to change their minds. The problem is that when they find out, and they always do, it will make things even more difficult for you.

Well considering the trouble it may cause to her she should really analyze the situation. If her parents would consider this kind of relationship that she has then it would be good to tell it to them but if not then she should wait for the right timing.

hi Miss T! i have been a teenager myself, and also came from a traditional asian family. i know it is quite difficult to open up to our parents about dating, but i think 17 isn't too young, and that living in the UK, they could have an idea what life is like there unlike living in asian countries. i think it will be best to open up and tell your parents because it is better for you to tell them rather than they find it out from someone else. they will be pleased if you'll be honest with them instead of hide things from them. trust can be gained this way.

Parents know what's good for their children. If your family really matters to you, why do you have to hide it from them? You have to take the consequences. Introduce the guy to your family and tell the truth. Even though you are in a conservative or protective family, how would you know that they will not like the guy? If the guy is decent, there could be no reason not to like him. If they would be against your relationship then, make friends with him. You would never know. They might like the guy sooner or later.

You have to be honest with your parents. How could you enjoy your relationship right now if you keep on hiding it from them? If they would say "no" then, ask for the reasons "why". Of course, you have to absorb what they say. You don't have to be in a hurry. You're only 17 years old. Do not limit yourself. If he could wait then, that would be nice.

I don't know if it is bad but I know that it is wrong. You shouldn't be going behind your parents back regardless of what consequences there will be if you tell them about the boyfriend. Besides, I doubt you can keep it a secret for a longtime anyway. It is always best to tell the truth and be honest about everything. Plus, your parents might surprise you and be more understanding about it and they will be proud that you didn't hold it back from them just to keep seeing your boyfriend.

It's not bad at all, but you should be able to tell your mom about it. It will only get worse with time.