How would you like your suitor or friend to open their feelings for you?

I'm curious.

Imagine that you have a friend who has feelings for you and you don't know it.

Then there come a time that he did confess it out to you.

How would you want him to do so?

In what manner do you think would his intent would be effective?

Well I've experienced this before like a lot, at first I think they hated me cuz they always tease me. But it turned out they only want my attention. Some didn't confess directly cuz they always use my girl friends as their bridge. I would appreciate it more if they'll confront me then tell it to me personally.

To be honest that to me is embarrasing I have had some one do that to me and it really put a strain on the realationship

Why don't you ask your friend about that feeling, if you could already sense it. hmm.. This could be a little bit awkward, but its alright. Remember that you just want to be true to your instinct.

Do you believe in right time and right place? For me, I would believe in his intention and sincerity if he would do this. He has be relaxed and ready as well to accept whatever the outcome would be. I experienced this before and it was quite embarrassing on my part. I like him also however, I cannot even tell him I feel the same way too.

Really? Do you make any attempts or any actions that he may sense somehow? Just curios.

Action speaks louder than voice, isn't it?

hanna
I think you are right Actions really do speak louder than words it is a proven fact that people pay attention more to your body language . But every so often there are a few men that need that word .

Action really speaks louder than words, I definitely agree with that Hanna. However, words are very important. It doesn't necessarily mean that we have to hear it several times, once would be enough. And besides, we could tell if a guy really meant what he said. Do you agree? For me, body language doesn't explain it all.

Oh for me body languange is enough to wake me up and realize what he really is up to. But hey I still want to hear it straight from his mouth just to confirm my hypothesis. Omg this topic makes me feel like i'm back at my highschool days.

well, it happened to me with my first boyfriend. we are very close friends, and our circle of friends would tease us. then suddenly, when we went out for an outing, he opened up to me. the good thing is that, I already felt something for him, something more than a friend. our relationship was good though it didn't worked out, but still until now we are friends.

Yes, I do agree with you Kyles. Would you like to be courted without being asked by them? For me, I don't like that idea. And every once in a while, we should tell our partners how we feel. We don't just show it.

I think every women feel that too, Brandy. Communication is more important than body language. I'm just curious, do you tell your partner how you feel?

Well we must always tell our partners how we feel so that the other will know what you really think and feel. It wouldn't be fair to keep you feelings to yourself only since you had a partner to share it with.

I'm a pretty straight forward individual and would prefer if they would just say it instead of prolonging the situation. Either way I'll have to hear it sometime and a decision will have to be made.

I've had this happen to me with both sexes and it does change things, but I find it extremely brave. As long as the person doesn't pressure you or carry on and on then I think its fine.

It really bothers me when you tell them you're not interested and they continue to flirt obviously and make comments to let you know they like you.

I think if you're true friends, you'll get through it either way. Being open and honest is key

I would have to agree with you it does put strain on the realationship , I would be glad that they told me but at the same time a little concerned especially if I were in another realationship or married I would not want my husband to think the wrong thing

But that's usually how guys like girls: they'd play it safe, see first how you'd react to them. If they think you like them somehow then they'd tell you straight up.

Embarrassing to you or to the guy?

Aren't we suppose to tell them everything? I do communicate with my partner a lot. Whenever we encounter some issues, we would see to it that it would settled. We don't have a perfect relationship. We are still in the stage of getting to know each other so communication is very important for us.

I think it is not so easy for a man to confess his feeling to a woman he loves, mostly because a man cannot bear a refusal. It hurts his pride, self esteem and confidence. He will wait till he is really convinced that the woman also has the same feeling to him. Most men will get a hard time confessing their feeling. So, for me it's OK whatever way they choose to confess.

I see. Thanks. But what if the reason why they don't want to tell it to you directly is because they're scared of rejection directly from you? How would you react to that?

Ouch! I think I'm in that situation right now.

Hear hear! Ha ha. Well said. Will you be offended if a guy gave you a sudden kiss in the lips or even just in the cheeks to prove his affection to you?

I agree with this, some men would choose to be quiet with his feelings than to feel being rejected. they would just drop some clues on their feelings to see if the woman feels the same way. but it would also be hard if he keeps on controlling his feelings until in the end he don't have the chance to say it all.

Honestly, if someone said something like that to me, I wouldn't know what to do. It would come as a complete surprise because I can be absolutely clueless about these things. I would have to do some serious thinking before I could answer.