Have you ever thought about this stuff? I was having a conversation with a my friend who's a guy then he suddenly mentioned this. Boys do care more about their friends rather than their wife. Do you agree with this or can you relate to this stuff?

Perhaps that would be true for boys, but I believe MEN know their priorities. That's one thing that separates men from boys.

I agree with you on this sofree, men are different from boys and they know their responsibilities and priorities. But you are also right reira that boys care about their friends more.

I don't know whether you have actually got confused with the face that your calling a man a boy or what? If that is the case, well it depends upon person to person, a husband obviously cares for his family and would put the family first unless hes someone who doesn't really care about his family and wants to have the fun with friends instead.

Of course not. Men love and care for their wives and family more than their friends. If this isn't the case, then you need to find a new man. No man should care for his friends more than his wife.

Maybe boys do this, although they would not have wives.

I can't really relate to it and nor do I think that men care more about their friends than their wives. First off, it's like comparing apples and oranges. Of course they will care about their friends - it's a part of their life. Having a wife is different and everything has its own place. As long as a husband knows where his priorities lie, it doesn't matter how much he cares for his friends. He has a right to his own life after all.

Hmm that's true but I was just thinking about it in my case he does hang around much with his friends rather than me. Although we're on the same roof we always see each other but always doing things separately and mostly he's out with his friends then go home at 1am. Then when we're out just the two of us he doesnt seem to enjoy my company he keeps on complaining but when his friends text him to go for some jamming he's always on the go. T_T

Have you tried setting up an activity with him, not saying "I want to spend more time with you" "Or you always are leaving " But rather more like "I heard about ------ movie, and was hoping you might like to see it with me." Or maybe "I was reading a review on a restuarant, and now I'm dying to try it with you."

I've found my boyfriend is terrible at making plans for us, but that he's usually willing to follow through on the plans that I make for us and present in a positive light.

If these gentle strategies don't work, you may want to try talking about what he does makes you feel, and if that doesn't work try counselling. And if that doesn't work, maybe a new guy T.T

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Well I always try my best to make him stay with me. When I ask him to go out with me like malling or something he just says he's not into it. I always tell him about our plans every friday night that we're going to watch our fav friday comedy show but it always ends up only "me" watching it cuz he's still with his friends. I don't know if he appreciates all my effort but I feel so neglected everytime I'm in pain he doesn't seem to care I told him I needed some medicine but guess what he bought it then gave to me after 8 hours. I always wait for him and I feel so damn tired. Even if I talk to him about my feelings he'll just say he's sorry but after how many days he's doing it again.

I feel for you reira. Some men are like that, they like their "guy" activities and prefer hanging out with friends to spending time with their wife. Especially if it includes shopping. You are doing well trying to find something to do that you both like. Keep trying. If going to the mall is not his thing, you probably have to accept it. Try something else, something he is not opposed to.

My husband knows I won't go to any sports games with him because I can't stand them. So it is perfectly fine with me if he goes to such events with friends. I can go watch a gangster movie with him though, and he does not mind watching a comedy or fantasy / adventure with me.

some men care more about friends than their wife
some men care more about their wife than friends
some women care more about their friends than their husband
some women care more about their husband than their friends.

-F

Reira, I would be wary, there is a probability that the 'friends' is
a 'female' and is more than a friend. I don't want to cause any
disruption in your marriage but these are symptoms. Hope I am wrong
on this one.

-F

I don't know if that is true. I think that would depend on the guy. Was you friend happy with his wife? In my opinion, if he is not happy, most likely he would choose his friends over his wife.

I don't agree with this in my family. My husband never goes out with his friends. There are times I have to tell him to call a friend to do something. He then gets his friends who have wives or girlfriends so we can all go out together.

At least your husband is great. I wish he's like that too.

I would necessarily say they care more about their friends, but they are greatly influenced by them.

I have observed that some people would like to be with their friends than their partner. However, I think it changes once you have your own family. That is something bothering. I wouldn't be happy if my husband would spend more time with his friends. Now I am curious, what could be the reason behind that?

I think it really depends on the person. I think there needs to be a healthy amount of time that the husband and wife spend away from each other, otherwise he may become annoyed and bored. This could lead to problems later on in the relationship. If he cares about them more, even though she's trying her hardest, then maybe he's not the right man for her. She may want to sit down and let him know how it's making her feel and ask if there's anything he needs... space, more sex, communication, time alone with the guys. If he's worth it, they'll be able to make it work!

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