When i used to study before marriage, i used to think i should get into a nice family with nice relation & relatives, enjoy nicely with family members, take care of in-laws, do service to them as long as they live, but now, it is fully opposite, no proper relation for my in-laws, and surprisingly to say that they don't even maintain relatives also, only my parents-in-law & my sis's-in-law families get together. Fortunately, it's quite opposite with my hubby, he maintains relatives & friends too. But he is not concerned of my family members like i do to his family. Any solution?

It is hard to offer a solution here. You had a dream of joining a nice, friendly family with strong family ties, but it had not happened; the family you ended up in turned out to be quite different. You can't change them and the way they treat family relations.

I am married into a family that is rather cold, too. They have family gatherings once in a while, but the people are not really close to each other, they hardly even talk. What I do is I socialize with those I do find nice and friendly. My husband's grandma and aunt, for example, are very nice, we get along great and always have something to talk about.

Well like Lissy said you cant change anyone, so I would suggest change your way and if you have kids their way, make them more socialable and have get together with family and friends on your own out of the house.

If this was your childhood dream, well its something you should not get upset over, because you must understand that everyones different and the way they socialize with others families or friends.

It must be very important that your partner was introduced to your family and relatives before the marriage so that he would be comfortable to mingle with them every time there is a family gathering. Why did you say that he isn't concern with your family? I think he does but he doesn't talk about it that much.