HELLO ,
I have my mother In law I always notice a change in her when her daughters are on a visit.They are married .My in law usually get ups at 7 0' clock in the morning and she is busy in her own work and she never cares about my children like helping them to get ready to school or packing their lunch ...etc But when my sister In laws are at home she does all much all for them .She wake's up early and help their children in all most all ways .Why don't she treat my children as she treat them .Some times I think I cannot expect 100% from your In laws in any way even for my children.

It is sad that your mother-in-law shows such preference to the "other children. Your children are her son's children, too! I don't know why she would treat them differently. I guess it all depends on the person. Some are helpful, others are not.

Sadly, some people aren't as open to allowing new people into their family. How old are they? Maybe she needs more time to open up?

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-Brittany Brydahl

Maybe you two aren't that close so she doesn't show any interest in helping you out. My MIL is a lot kinder I can't even say if she is giving her 100%. Funny thing is she wants a grandchild now and we can't even give her one yet.

The bad news is that you can't expect 100% from anybody. We're human, and we make mistakes. People are going to be petty and play favorites. The best thing you can do for your children is show them that you love them. There will be no one else who can love your children like their own mother can.

Very true, and perhaps this is the reason why a mother-in-law will never be like your mother. A good mother-daughter relationship is so special and unique. No one else on the whole earth can compare to what your mom is to you.

That is all so true. You can't expect 100% from anybody, but in the same token, you can't give 100% of yourself to anybody. Even in the marriage relationship. You have to go out and work and make a living and that is bound to take it's toll on you.

You can't let that bother you at all. Just remember that you married her son, and you love him very much. You're a part of the family whether she likes it or not.

Perhaps her relationship is much tighter with her kids than it is with you. Some people tend to want to help those they feel closer to. You can have a talk with her about this but I don't think it will change anything. It has to come from within and if she doesn't feel like doing the same thing with you, maybe you should just accept her as she is.