How is your relationship with your in-laws? Mine has actually improved in recent times. It used to be a drag to go visit them, but maybe I just don't care as much anymore.

My mother-in-law and I will always have differences and in her eyes I will never be able to care for her son as well as she did. But the way I see it, I'm his wife. Not his mother. It's not my job to baby him like she did.

I completely agree with you about babying (actually, refusing to baby) your husband. If his mom did that, it's her problem. If she wants you to keep doing it, tough. He is an adult man who is able to take care of himself.

Thankfully, my mom-in-law is not like that. It is probably because she is married to a jerk who wants to be babied.

See babying is different from caring .If you have affection on any one we start caring for them .
But babying is not at all possible with husbands or even with our parents or sisters....
Are you a mother then you can show your babying on them Then definetly your in law will be happy that at last my daughter in law has learn't babying.(Joking)

How about a brother-in-law who won't even say "hello" when he shows up? Mine is like that, and nobody ever corrects him. Nevertheless, I am expected to accept him, invite him to dinners and other family activities, etc.

Maybe she's just jealous that her son is now married. I don't think mothers should treat her daughter in law that way. I wouldn't want to be like that in the future.

I have never heard of or seen a mother in law who appreciates her daughter in law' The reverse is equally true !! This kind of strained relationship between mother in law and daughter in law has been there for ages! It all arises because of the possessiveness of women

Wow, that's pretty rude. Why does he even bother showing up if he won't even say hello. The dynamics of families can be very "interesting."

He bothers to show up to eat homemade food. He'll also come if they've got something going on with my husband - some tool needs to be brought or taken, etc. Recently, my mom-in-law came to visit and she stayed with us, so he came to see her - once again, just walked into the house through the unlocked door, no "hello" for anyone.

"Interesting" for sure!

Oh maybe you are right but my MIL is actually nice to me sometimes not. I don't know why we should feel that way. The only thing I hate in my MIL attitude is her annoyingly loud voice.

I don't have in laws yet, but observing from the point of view of my mother and her in laws (my dad's family), the relationship isn't very good. My aunt isn't very nice to my mother, and they rarely visit or call us after their brother's (my dad's) death. I don't let that kind of thing bother me. If they don't want to be around us or don't want us around, it's perfectly fine with me.

My relationship with my in laws are great, we are actually closer than I am with my own parents. I love them very much and sometimes I wish they lived much closer than they do right now.