Lately it seems like my in laws are taking over my house ... they come over and I have to wait on them hand and foot if I dont they complain and yell . And then I get it from my husband what do I do ???

Best thing would be to talk to your husband, make sure hes calmed down a bit and when you two talk, make sure you have enough time on hand and it will allow you to explain what you feel and also allow him to give his views.

Anu , thank you for the advice but he has a tendancy to walk away from it and he says just let it roll off . And if I try and bring it up later his response is what do you want me to do about it ...
Some times it is like I am talking to a wall

Oh my gosh that's a horrible thing to hear from your husband. He's so not supportive about you isn't he I know that it's his family but it's also YOUR HOUSE so show them who's boss. If he still isn't interested in hearing you out well then go out and have some fun outside then go home late hehe.

it really seems very hard for you, your husband is taking that for granted. maybe you can go with the flow, just be good to your inlaws or maybe you just think that they are not there in your house. hehehehe

I have tried so hard to be kind to them but ...they take advanatage of my hospitality and at times it gets old... they have a tendency to eat me out of house and home. It is almost as if they EXPECT me to wait on them hand and foot

Why don't you confront them in a way that they won't get offended. First of all why on earth are they taking over your house since they have their own house that should be taken care of. Secondly you are married already so they don't have to invade your life if it's not necessary.

I have said something but they ignore what I say and go right to my husband and use him to get to me till i lose my patience then they leave
It is really hard when you cant get support from anyone either

Your husband needs to be on your side regarding this. It is your home - yours and his - and you both need to deal with such intrusions, together. I understand that he does not want to offend his parents, but he cannot stay uninvolved. When he asks you what you want him to do about it, tell him - talk to them and put an end to this. And if he refuses, I'd take radical measures, like leaving each time they come over.

lissy ,
That is a great idea thank you for the advice about the whole situation .