A new born baby takes up most of your time and energy. So it is essential for you to encourage independence in your older child if you have one. You can encourage them to do different activities independently. Involve them in playing on their own. If you have a babysitter or have a grandparent at home then encourage the child to get accustomed them. Make sure that you involve the father with the older child a little too and shower the father with responsibilities of bathing, dressing and feeding the child. But make sure that the child does not feel neglected by the mother.

I think that giving the baby the care and the time he needs is much important first. Most especially during early years, a baby needs all the pampering and bonding moments with the parents. It gives great foundation for the baby's intellectual and emotional aspects. The baby who was given proper attention and care will grow up a into happy being.

this is true. newborns need a lot of time, energy and affection to build their trust and security in the outside world. but this doesn't mean we should neglect our other children. all it takes is a little time management and a lot of sacrifice. we should also make sure we can include the older child or children in bonding moments with the newborn so as not to make them feel isolated or neglected.

I agree with you ladies, new born child should have the attention they need. so young as they are they need to develop their emotional intelligence. and being taken care of, and feeling the touch of their mothers would help. involve the older child with taking care of the new born. ask the older one to play with the child, make them feel that they are wanted and needed also by their younger brother or sister.

Wonderful advice! I liked this first hand many times. I was always the oldest in my household, and every time a new baby was added to the mix, I felt less and less important and just kinda mixed up in the shuffle. Take some time and create "special days" with the older kids to let them know that they are still extremely important to you... also, I think when you ask them to help with the new baby, they feel more involved, and from what I've seen, they are always VERY VERY happy to help out! It makes them feel needed and like they're part of the choice to have a new baby in the home.

Spend time with both of them together as well.. gets the three of you to bond