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Old 12-13-2009, 12:00 PM
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I'm a little nervous about tomorrow. I am meeting one of my bfs best friends that he hasn't seen in over a year. We're also going to be hanging out with his girlfriend, and another couple. So, it's going to be a bunch of people I don't know. I don't do too well in groups and around strangers. As weird as it sounds, I really hope we do something simple and low key. I would love to go to a movie, walk around downtown or something that makes me feel safe. I'm not too active and when I feel uncomfortable, I tend to get quiet and people mistake it for being grouchy. I really hope I can relax and have fun. I just spend so much of my time in the house.. *sigh* I'm sure I'll be fine though..
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Old 12-14-2009, 09:33 AM
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You know what's weird? Right after I posted this, my bf talked to his friend and he had to cancel. I'm a bit relieved but then I'm more upset, because I think it would have been good for me to do something outside of my comfort zone. I'm sure we'll get another chance soon.
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Wow, you sound just like me...I really have hard time with new introductions and doing things in groups as well. We had a Christmas dinner with the class earlier this week and I didn't even attend it because I didn't think I could get through the dinner without feeling suffocated or uneasy with the whole class together, outside of the school settings. I can certainly understand how you feel.
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Old 12-19-2009, 12:32 PM
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Wow, you sound just like me...I really have hard time with new introductions and doing things in groups as well. We had a Christmas dinner with the class earlier this week and I didn't even attend it because I didn't think I could get through the dinner without feeling suffocated or uneasy with the whole class together, outside of the school settings. I can certainly understand how you feel.
It sucks, doesn't it? It really keeps me from doing a lot of the things that I would like to do. I just let the anxiety take over. It's frustrating when people get bummed out that I don't go out with them and do things. Half the time, I feel like there are two different parts of me, one is outgoing and WANTS to go out more, but the other side makes me feel like it's scary and then I get overly nervous, and bail out just because it's easier to do.
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I can relate completely. I close up around new people even though I try to be as polite as I can possibly be. If it were me, I would want to do something that involved them doing as little talking to me as possible so they wouldn't notice that I hadn't say anything.
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Old 12-24-2009, 08:21 AM
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I can relate completely. I close up around new people even though I try to be as polite as I can possibly be. If it were me, I would want to do something that involved them doing as little talking to me as possible so they wouldn't notice that I hadn't say anything.
I get so nervous in public situations, it's CRAZY. I know in my mind that it's fine and I need to relax but it's a lot easier said than done. It's frustrating, because many people don't understand the difference between anxiety and just being anxious. It's not always something you can just get over. I'm pretty much anxiety 24/7, even if I don't have a reason to be.
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I can relate completely. I close up around new people even though I try to be as polite as I can possibly be. If it were me, I would want to do something that involved them doing as little talking to me as possible so they wouldn't notice that I hadn't say anything.
I think going to the movies is pretty much the best possible solution then, isn't it? Everyone would be watching the movie and if anyone decides to go for a coffee afterwards, it would just be a conversation about the movie and other trivial things
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My situation is completly wierd .
My friends think that am pretty bold and they tend to introduce their friends to me.
And when i happen to face them i dont know what exactly happend with me but i end up making them uncomfortable with my behaviour.
I disapppont my friends .
A tried to avoid this a lot but no fruit yet.
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