Hi again friends,

It has been 4-5 months since I visited here. I am really sad and I just thought I would share it here.

It has been 5 complete months since I got married and I am not yet pregnant. Every month my periods happen on the correct date which I hate

But few weird things are: for the last three months I have a vomiting sensation for the first three days prior to periods. I vomit and then the periods come in half-a day or one. I told my Dr about this and she says it is you mentality. I have an appointment even today. I am going to make her understand that it has been happening for 3 months and it definitely can not be mentality.

I think the egg is trying to rupture but it fails and that is why I have vomiting sensation and then the periods. I do not know anything technically or biologically... all I know is, I am not conceiving and my periods are regular which is saddening me!

Any ideas? or anyone been through my stage?

Hi Dahlia

Whats the hurry girl ? you sound like you have been trying to conceive for years......

Its just been 5 months after your marriage ... take a break i dont see why you are even thinking of conception so early in your marriage unless you are close to 30 years of age and want to conceive before then.



Anyways it can take anywhere from a month up to a year for a normal healthy couple to conceive , the average being 6- 12 months . so take a break from your anxieties and Enjoy

Try not to get pregnant. You'll get pregnant....

This is not sarcasm, seriously once the stress of wanting to
get pregnant is reduced, the chances become better.

and get your husband to wear boxer shorts, avoid long hot baths etc...

I think Farce may be right. I mean, you did just marry and you're under a lot of stress. I think if you try to calm down a bit and just let things happen, they will. I'm sorry you're so upset! I'm sure it's a very, very hard thing

You'll get pregnant girl

I thank you guys for your positive replies. I hope the positive vibrations from this forum will make me pregnant at the least. I will be 25 years old by this June and the hurry is because I just love kids. I am planning to have 2 kids before I become 30 years with a year gap after the first delivery. If it takes this long even for the 1st baby... then well I am stressing myself

My cousin sister has a baby boy. She conceived in just 2 months after her marriage. My neighbor is 30 years old and she just got married by Dec 12 and she is conceived now. May be I am jealous or well I don't know what I am going through... Its just that everyone I see/talk with recently are conceived and it has not been more than 3-4 months since they got married!

Also, I spoke with my doctor and asked her I have regular periods yet not conceiving, what could possibly be the problem? She said regular periods need not mean I am ovulating and hence she prescribed me for a Follicular Scan which I will be taking this 13th March. She said the follicle must be 20mm in size for it to rupture. This scan will also tell me if I have PCO (Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome I think). Lets see.. what ever it may be, I am so desperate to conceive in next two months!

I wish you all the best. But I think you might be stressing out a bit too much.

Just let it take it's time. I think you are still young. It's not like you are 40
and you have only a few years more to conceive. Just take it easy.

Good Luck.

Any gynaec worth her salt will tell you that the average time taken is 6 - 12 months ... but since ou are so tense I guess the scan will atleast help put your mind at ease.

Now as Farce has repeatedly said stress is not a good conception aid.... reduce stress take folic acid tablets, reduce coffee (this applies to your husband too) and try doing some mild exercises daily.

BTW having sex everyday isn't the best way to conceive it is better to have sex every two days or on alternate day... to let sperm count be optimum on the day your eggs are viable.

I agree with you all. I should stop stressing myself and relax. I am trying to...

Also Busy bee, you have said

This a a NEWS to me! I have read somewhere that drinking more coffee helps in conceiving a baby "BOY". Can you explain this a little bit if you have some time, please?

With respect to exercise - I am doing Treadmill everyday for 30 minutes at the speed of 5kms/hr. I do this even when I am nearing my periods time (and not when I am on my periods). Could this also be a reason for why I get periods? Should I be a lazy cow and take enough rest to prevent periods? Sorry for a lot of questions...

The exercises you are doing at this time will help you a lot in having a normal delivery (Conditions apply )

I think you have the right idea. I know it's much easier said than done. Try to keep busy and I'm sure you'll get pregnant. plus, when you think about it. What's the worst that can happen? There are soooo many options out there to help you, so you will have a baby.. one way or another

It is better you consult a Gynecologist...

May be you will feel better and more relaxed.. and that will increase your chances..

Wish you all the best..

Hi Dahlia ...

there is absolutely no way to make sure or even increasing the probability of conceiving a child of either sex.All the supposed techniques to do so are simply unscientific and do not work.

it will be better if you avoid coffee or lit coffee to one or two cups per day as once caffeine isn't considered to be good while conception nor for the baby's development.
Coffee although is thought to increase sperm motility so it wont be a bad idea for your husband to drink some.

Exercise is fine as long as you don't overheat your body ... or jump around vigorous exercise isn't the best aid to conception.

My major advise to you would be that you stop worrying about all these and relax STRESS will deter conception.

where do people get these ideas? drinking coffee will get you a boy baby?

And also maybe you should get a basal temperature thermometer.
It is not guaranteed to make you pregnant but atleast it will tell
you which days you are most fertile around your ovulation time
so you can plan around that time.

-F

well.... posiibily from the fact that it will increase sperm motility may be faster sperm means boy

We have this friend who thinks ppl who like strong coffee and dark chocolate are sexually very intense and passionate

maybe true, chocolate is an aphrodisiac ;-)

I agree with what the others have said, do not worry, it has not been that long. You know, doctors at fertility clinics will not even see people who have been trying to get pregnant for less than a year. Five months is nothing. Yes, for some people it happens very fast, others have to wait a bit longer. Everyone's body is different.

Thanks guys for all your +ve replies. I am not worried now really. Not stressing myself but a very very little bit sad which I sooner will overcome :-)

I started Follicular Study. On my 11th day my Endo Metrics was 4mm. I am supposed to take a scan today which is my 13th day. But I can not avail a day off today so I will be going for scan tomorrow. Let's hope that the Follicle have grown bigger