How do you deal with a stalker? I have a friend who experienced being followed by someone she actually know. I previously found out that the guy was one of her suitors before. Although my friend keeps telling the guy that she doesn't like him, he just kept on insisting. What do you think is the best way to stop him from stalking?

get a restraining order. get audio/video proof. go to police.
there are a lot of crazy people out there. be careful
-F

She can try being friends with him.
If she treats him as her friend, maybe he would not insist on being a suitor.

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Actually, my friend tried to make friends with him before but it wasn't effective. The guy really loves her but the sad part is that she doesn't feel the same way. And maybe that could be the reason why he keeps on stalking, to keep himself updated. Telling the police is not her option because the situation is not that serious, right? I suggested that she should have an instant boyfriend, could that be a good idea?

I don't think having an instant boyfriend is a good idea. That suggestion could only mean that she call for an instant relationship, am I right? If ever you plan of settling with someone, you must consider the feeling. I guess, just be nice to him. I wonder, why don't you give him a chance?

I don't think befriending him or being nice to him will do any good. It'll more likely encourage him. My advice would be to seemingly "ignore" him in the hopes that he will lose interest. It seems to me that if you pay attention to people like this, it just fuels their obsession. In the meantime, she should to take film footage and photos of him as evidence of his stalking, in case she needs it to file for an injunction later on. She should also alert neighbors and close friends about what's going on so that if they see anything suspicious, they can warn her.

I asked her before why she don't want to give him a chance. She told me that she's too young to be engaged in a relationship. Do you think I should talk to the guy as well?

Best thing to do would be to file a police report and request a restraining order - it is really hard to know what this person's next move will be; thus, it is always better to be safe than sorry...

Phew good thing I don't have a persistent stalker like that. For some reasons I also had some guys stalking me but good thing they don't follow me all the way home or it'll be a tough situation. I seriously don't like someone always following me it makes me feel like I did something wrong. Confront this stalker and if he still follows you tell the police to help you out.

That guy is somewhat scary. Did your friend tell that guy how she feels whenever he stalks her? I think she must do it so that the guy would know that your friend is annoyed and bothered in what he is doing.

Well I guess, there is nothing wrong if you talk to him. In a way, you could help your friend explain to him that she is quite annoyed with what he is doing. When was the guy started stalking your friend?

Please do not advise your friend to talk to the guy or be friendly in anyway ... and please do not try to talk to him yourself ...

Get a restraining order as soon as possible... he can get frustrated and move on to more than simply stalking

I don't think she ever told her about how she feels when he stalked. The guy looks fine, I even thought of setting a blind date for him. Do you think it would help him stop?

Stalking is a crime. A person that stalks someone is not "in love" with her. When a person loves someone, they respect their feelings and their privacy. Gathering the evidence that you have and filing for a restraining order is the safest approach. Let a court decide if he is a stalker.

No i don't think you should talk to him, if he is unstable enough to stalk her after being told she doesn't have feelings for him you never know how he might react to you trying to interfere. I would suggest calling the police and like someone else suggested asking the neighbors to keep an eye out and if anyone sees him lurking about to call the police. Stalkers are nothing to take lightly even if they seem sweet and innocent.

That guy somewhat don't accept being sayin' No. If he is harassing your friend already then she should be careful or if she got the chance to talk with the stalker i mean his ex-suitor better just talked to him politely.

Well I would agree with brandy its quite scary especially if you don't exactly know the person... the personality, the attitude and so on and so forth. I would suggest that you take extra precaution from this time on.

I personally think the most important thing to do when you feel you have a stalker is tell someone. Make sure people know, because that way, if something happens to you, they will know where to look first. Also, maybe even call the police, if it's becoming bad enough.

Just, whatever you do, never think that you're overreacting. If you're scared, you have reason to be. Don't feel ashamed. You're body is trying to protect you