I work in a call centre, there are a lot of people who work at our office. There is a guy who started around the same time as me, and so we know of each, and we sometimes go in a group of people whenever going our for lunch or on a break!

This guy has been eyeing me up for quite some time now, and he has tried approaching me but indirectly. A couple of days ago he told a friend of mine at work that he really likes me, even I think he is nice and good looking! But the problem is that hes got a girlfriend and I don't think he knows that I know this!

I do like the guy, well I liked him more before i knew he had a girlfriend, because I thought maybe we could go out with each other, but as he had a girlfriend i didn't bother as he was already taken!

I don't know what to say to this guy through my friend, I mean i do like him but hes got a girlfriend as well! Should i confront him and ask straight if hes got a gf or go out with him regardless!

Well my advice to you would be that, dont go for that guy. The reason i am sayign this that today he is eyeing you up although he has a girlfriend, tomarrow he may do the same with another girl while you are with him!

Whats the point of getting into a relationship where there is cheating and lies, you will only have a broken heart in the end, its not worth it!

I agree with what Sara said, if the guys lying to you know, then he will in the future too!

I think you should teach him a lesson and ask him on his face about his girlfriend, this way he will not try to hit on you and your friends.

I would say do not confront him unless he approaches you and asks you out. Then I think it would be appropriate to tell him that you know that he has a girlfriend, and that you are not comfortable with that. I agree with you, I would view him as "taken" as well. And if he is ready to cheat on his girlfriend, he is not a good kind.

Yes wait until this guy approaches you. But before that happens, you should have already thought of what you want to say and be firm when saying it. Don't end up saying "I like you too" coz you do, right? Guys have thousands of ways to get around. Don't be fooled.

If he makes a move on you before he breaks up with the girlfriend then he is a cheater and not worth your time. If he breaks up with his girlfriend and then makes a move on you then I'd give him a shot.

Before judging this guy about how he is cheating on his GF etc in the
last few replies, maybe they broke up, maybe the original poster
got wrong information about the GF, maybe he and his supposed GF
are just good friends and not romantically involved.

Talk to him and clear things up. Don't just assume things from
things you hear or see.


If he has a real GF and still wants to go out with you I would
advice to skip him.

-F

what's with the bridge thing? like a friend will be the front act just for you to know that he likes you? i mean if his really into you then he should approach you so that whatever questions you have like as what you've said you might think he had a gf, there's no reason for you to go out with him if he really have a gf.

Well I would say to ask him if he has a girlfriend. The situation may have changed and then you can decide if you two should go out for coffee or dinner. If he is still involved you have to tell him how you feel about dating someone who is already with someone else.

Maybe things are not working out in his relationship and he is planning on leaving her ? I would talk to him, just strike up an everyday conversation and see what he says, if he discloses that he is in a relationship then he is good and honest if he tries to hide it then run a mile.

Isnt it quite straight forward here that the guy is cheating his GF. Are you sure he wont cheat you after some days!!? Give it some time. Be friendly with him if you really like him. Watch his approach. Let him get over with his current GF. He will eventually do so if he really likes you.

Before judging this guy about how he is cheating on his GF etc in the
last few replies,

- maybe they broke up,
- maybe the original poster got wrong information about the GF,
- maybe he and his supposed GF are just good friends and not romantically involved.

and finally
- maybe he really is a scumbag who plans on cheating on his GF,


-F

How so Saurav? How do you know that? It is not quite that straightforward.

-F

p.s I am talking from many personal experiences where the wrong
conclusions were reached with regard to me and female friends
who I was not romantically involved with, Heck one time they
made up stories with me and my cousin sister.

I have the same answer as Farce's. Just confront the guy you like and find out if he's in a relationship with someone else. If he's single, there's no problem going out with him on a friendly date.

If you want to confirm something, ask him directly. If the answer is yes, then I guess, that shouldn't stop you from being friends, right? If the answer is none, then there's nothing to worry about. When you want to start a relationship, make sure you start it right.

The original poster Jyoti asked this more than six months back.
I think by this time she would have asked him out, dated,
got engaged, got married and is probably on her honeymoon

-F

I agree...some men never seem to get enough of pursuing women, even when they are actually in a relationship with someone. I would say, stay away, it is probably just a heartbreak waiting to happen - there are actually so many single and available guys out there who are looking forward to form a nice and meaningful relationship with a woman - I would go for one of those instead...

You maybe good friends but don't go beyond that if you're already sure that he has a girlfriend. I know that you would understand his gf's feeling if ever you'll pursue a relationship with that guy. How about if you'll some background check first before to conclude about him? By the way, were you able to prove that he has a girlfriend already?

I strongly agree to this. If you already knew that he already got a gf better look for somebody else rather than hurting someones feeling. In the end you'll be just like the victim which is like a cycle being repeated over and over again. Better think twice before you make some steps.

I think Jyoti's getting married in 2months, well according to her post here [url]http://www.womensforum.in/singles/949-getting-married-2months.html[/url] she is (and im sure its the not admirer guy)

Have you talk to the guy? If you have so many doubts about his intentions, it would be better to confront him. You have to be careful. Before you pursue your emotion, weigh things first. If ever he already has a girlfriend, there could be no harm if you stay as friends.

you should probably read the entire thread first, especially the post
right above yours . She is getting married.

My concern is that the gentleman has not approached you. At this point everything is "she said, he said". If you have been close enough with this individual that you go to break and lunch in a group, then why hasn't he expressed his feeling to you? I would leave it alone - business as usual.

I'm sorry but where you able to talk to the guy indirectly or directly? Try to weigh things out. Do you have any feeling for him? Because you will not be bothered if you don't have any feeling for him.